Silence is the way to avoid problems

Silence cannot be a permanent solution to help us in problems. Trust me, if it is hurting your self-esteem, and you are not able to sleep properly every night with a thought of problem tearing you down, or hurting you in any other way; do not be silent. In some situation where you think its your fault in the creation of the problem, and you know you did something wrong, you can not be silently avoiding it. You really need to step out and take action.

When you think you did nothing in creation of the problem, and it just got up, then better be silent. Your over-smartness will create more problem for you. Be wise enough to analyze the situation, and note all your steps. And do what you feel is right without hurting anyone (specially the one who do not deserve that hurt).

Silences are interpreted differently in every situation. ”Silence has its own language.” Where sometimes it causes the fire to die down, other times it just fuels it. Sometimes we stay silent to avoid fueling into the fire, other times we just stay silent because we don’t know what to do and eventually are trying to avoid confronting a problem altogether, it is also a coping mechanism. People use shutting up as a coping mechanism.

Silence as a game, as in the silent treatment, is passive aggressive and damaging to relationships. But silence as a coping mechanism is equally fatal for relationships, even when it’s motivated by self-preservation rather than manipulation. You’ll know exactly what your silence means when you choose to remain silent, because we remain silent with an intention. And there cannot be a hard and fast rule when it comes to expressing or suppressing our emotions. If we are more prone to reacting to a difficult situation rather than responding to it wisely, then remaining silent until we sober down saves us from a lot of embarrassment and heart breaks. But silence is never a permanent solution to any problem.

While opting the silent way without talking through the misunderstandings may help us to avoid uncomfortable confrontations temporarily but can pose a big threat to the relationship in the long run resulting in regrets. It is always better to talk things through. And being silent not always solves problems but it depends on the situation like if you are fighting with your wife you should just say sorry and be silent the wife will feel guilty and both will agree on a decision and now.

For example you have a heated conversation with your parents you should explain to them why they are wrong or if you know that you are wrong you should just say sorry and end the discussion it just makes things much simpler. But sometimes being silent solves your problems and in some cases being silent makes your problem even more bigger. It really depends on the situation. Be witty. Take quick actions. But always prefer to respond instead of reacting. Cheers!