Silence revisited...

Silence has always been my quest. For a person like me - a talkative kind from childhood where as women we talk really 'a lot' not in a bad way but we do have fun when we get time and meet. Later I noticed, it is more in my family haha!! Silence has been thus a challenge for me when lot of people around me wish I would keep quiet instead of saying something. Being a Sagittarius, you can understand it is more the need for me to keep quiet :) - we are really outspoken, frank, brutally honest and to add to the cake - 'sarcastic'. It is been a mission of couple of people in my life to find a solution for this - how to make me quiet.

It is a quest. Silence does not mean not talking, it is more than that. Mind has to be still, silent. I can go days without talking to a soul but my mind is like a wild horse and it keeps me exhaustively active. This latter part is what impacts the health. If your mind stays still when you do not talk vocally, then you are healthy. Sometimes you need to retrospect because you are your own life expert and you need expert advice.

I recently started trying to go without talking for a day or some solid hours a day. To do that, and keep the mind still. I either needed to sleep (ha-ha!!) or really go inwards to become really silent. Then I got an idea which I came across on here or some where else - "Moving Meditation" or how I interpreted it as a "Meditation on move". So, if I can practice silence through the day in chunks of time and become aware then I would slowly build it.

For a person from an industry where we have to talk a lot, communicate in various ways, be outspoken and do our own sales and branding. Being silent, being humble not talk about one's own praises becomes a little challenging. But I understand it is all about balance. Also in relationships where people are split across miles and seas, communication via text or call is the only holding pin of the relationship, silence is misleading and often misinterpreted. On other hand, too much of anything is also like poison. Too much of messaging or calling or texting from one side just makes the relationship sour and break. Don't speak unless asked, Don't give advice unless asked is key to it. One of my closest gals in life told me to give love in measured quantity and not give it unconditionally. So if love has to be measured then words should be even more measured!!

Recently I met at-least two people in life and both of them are silent nature. One of them likes the chatty me to balance it but to understand the person, I needed to understand how they communicated in silence being virtual and far. It takes a while. So, it takes time for me to realign. I had to tone down and become silent. I am still a work in progress. Recently my master taught me a mantra for helping with it. I chant the mantra he taught me as a thought-breaker and to become silent again whenever my mind wandered.

Like Oogway said, only in stilled water can we see the answers. In muddled water, everything is duh... muddy!! and chaotic!! If we notice, lot of good leaders and I mean real-life good leaders speak less, listen more. More important to speak when required and ensure the words spoken are correct and are really required.

Join me in my quest of silence as I continue the journey with these last thoughts.

If you cannot be silent and comfortable with yourself and being alone, then think if anyone else can be comfortable with you at all!!

Be Silent!!

If we notice in spiritual classes like one which my master takes, there is a pause in between words.It's not that he doesn't know what's to say. The pause has a meaning.

Pause lets one focus only on 'him' awaiting next word that's coming out. That brief pause of silence is nothing but meditation. 

Lot of people ask Master what's meditation,teach us meditation. It's simple. Focus on silence absolutely with no other thought is meditation.

Normally we are taught to say I'm or some mantra only because we are not yet trained to focus on silence with no thought. Master also taught to say 'Next' when a thought props up. Here that next becomes a mantra. 

It doesn't have to be sitting in one place at a dedicated hour, it can be anywhere, while eating, bathing.. empty the head.. just let it be. Let you be yourself. 

Start with second, increase. Then it becomes part of life 

There will be two parts of you one who is in meditative state other which carries in to keep it alive. Meditative state keep you aligned with Divine.

Be really still!! Be Oogway, my way!!