Silence doesn't build connection.

Silence doesn't build connection.

What’s the most common cause for family feuds?

Not expressing what's bothering you in your outside voice.

Holding back from saying what's on your mind is only building one thing

Resentment.

You might think you're trying to keep the peace when if fact the opposite is actually true.

"Nothing.... it's fine..... don't worry about it..."

Frustration continues to build in you because you can't quite put it into words without an emotional reaction.

Meanwhile ??

The other person is walking on eggshells, trying to figure out what's wrong with you in the hopes of "fixing" it.

Does that seem like keeping the peace to you? ??

The silent treatment, rage, passive aggressive behavior are all forms of emotional abuse.

If you don't know how to express your needs calmly, it's nobody's responsibility but yours to learn how to.

Your behavior causes resentment on both sides, is a waste of valuable time and energy and increases the potential risk for total disconnection.

What's the solution?

Learning how to pause.

Read the comment to learn why this skill is so valuable personally and professionally.

______________________

I'm Jen.

I teach you how to Pause.


Shamila Iyer

Writing Consultant | Author Coach | Editor ? I work with aspiring & established authors, businesses & professionals to craft *content that connects. Human to Human. *Content: articles, books, websites, SM

3 周

There is so much we don't say. But imagine if we did say everything we were thinking ?? We need that pause button and brakes too, don't we Jenny Maxwell???

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Michael Cornfield

Inside Sales Consultant/Sales Coach/Inspirer of people/Mentor/Lead Generation/Channel Partners/Forecasting/Call Center Management

3 周

Could you imagine if we were all bridge builders? That would be awesome right ,Jenny Maxwell?? ?

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Nadia BB

Affiliate Marketing | Social Media Marketing | Brand Promotion & Digital Marketer | Driving Engagement & Growth | Enabling Companies to Get Sales more Conversions with Linkedin

3 周

Great perspective

Leanne Fisher

Health Education Expert | Speaker | Wellness Coach | MS, CHES ??

3 周

Well said Jenny Maxwell??.

Jen Bulkowski, CPCC, ACC

Leadership Development Coach & Founder at Luma Collective | Elevating Organizations | Unlocking Radiant Potential ??

3 周

Pausing can make a huge difference for emotional reactions Jenny Maxwell??!

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