Shutting Doors is Often the First Step to Becoming a Positive Disruptor

Years ago, I returned to school to pursue my doctorate. At the time, my life was already packed to the brim.

My wife, Jamie Leddin, EdD , and I ran a company with offices in multiple states, supported a growing team, and worked with an expanding client base. On top of that, we were raising two young kids. By any standard, we were stretched thin.

But here’s the thing—I kept saying yes. I agreed to side projects, got involved in a not-for-profit, and added more and more to my plate. I tell you this not as a point of pride but as a moment of reflection, even embarrassment.

Why?

Because I had fallen into the trap of keeping doors open for the sake of it. I avoided saying no. Saying yes felt energizing. It felt like progress. When a new door opened, I went through it without hesitation.

Over time, though, I came to a hard realization: keeping every door open was holding me back. It was taking a toll on our business, straining important relationships and wearing me down. I was spread so thin that nothing I did was getting my absolute best effort. I had to make a change. Doors needed to close.

But I resisted. Saying no felt final, like burning bridges. I had to remind myself that shutting a door isn’t the same as burning a bridge. One is destructive and limiting; the other is freeing. Closing a door, when done thoughtfully, can enhance relationships, improve focus, and open the way to real growth and opportunity.

As a positive disruptor, you’ll face countless moments where big opportunities knock. The key to saying yes to the truly meaningful ones is having the courage to say no to those that aren’t. Each no is a choice to protect your time, energy, and resources. It’s a commitment to focus on what matters most.

Are you willing to start saying no?

Make it a great day!

- Patrick

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