Shore or Sink

If you're amongst the men and women born in the 80s to the 90s also you'll agree with me that the one important skill that utmost of our parents didn't educate us on was decision making. We were told what to eat, what to wear, what to study, what to question, and what to do. And all that we had to do was to follow what we were told. So when we came grown-ups we were completely comfortable with not taking our own opinions and letting someone differently take them for us.

Taking our opinions meant that we had to take ownership, we had to take responsibility for our conduct which were difficult things to do. The easier option was letting someone differently decide for us so that we could pass on the blame of all that didn't go well in our lives to our decision-makers. So then were these boys and girls who now grew up into men and women! As these boys came men, the story shore or sink they worked hard and tried their life.

Some did a good job and survived and came to the shore, while others tried hard, and struggled but did not relatively make it. The women on the other hand were told that they would save them. They would be their rafts. They would help them swim to safety. So the women did not learn to swim or even try. They waited for their men to deliver them and get them to the shore.

Some women were lucky for their men were suitable to bring them to the shore while others weren't so lucky for either their men weren't there for them or weren't strong enough to bring them to the shore. Still, while the women were in the ocean they continued to be optimistic that they will be carried to the shore by their men. Some knew in their heart that their men might leave them, or that their men may not be strong enough but they were afraid to make opinions to secure themselves. So they supplicated to God and hoped that they would be guided to the reinforcement safety.

It was best to believe that their destiny will moreover save them or sink them and they had absolutely no control over it. How did this story feel? Now imagine! Imagine a script were from a youthful age parents tutored both, their boys and their girls to be responsible for their own lives and let them take their own opinions so that they could be confident and not dependent.

When these boys and girls came men and women and were thrown into the ocean they both knew inversely well how to swim to safety. They helped each other, guided each other, supported each other, and were there for each other, but each one was confident of their own competencies and skills to reach the shore!

Which of these stories would you like to be a part of?

Why?

What's the shift in mindset that would help you through the story that you want to be a part of?

Are there any skills that you feel you acquire?