Shifting Focus

Like so many in my generation, I’ve had a long and rewarding career.? For more decades than I’d like to admit, I’ve driven toward professional goals with determination. At top of mind have always been my mission and goals; how to achieve them and positively impact people’s lives.? After all, I am a nurse.

·?????? As a psychiatric nurse, I’ve recognized how intense emotional pain can be.? I’ve promoted the importance of mental health and presented research-based, practical ways for work groups, families, and individuals to relieve their pain and live more emotionally healthy lives.?

·?????? As both a professional and family caregiver, I’ve experienced the difficult challenges and great joys of caregiving. ?In my writing and teaching, I’ve presented positive and effective ways to care for caregivers.?

·?????? As a wife and mother, I’ve pursued my calling as a nurse and caregiver in ways that balance my love for family with my professional priorities.?

Like so many in my generation, I’ve had a long career that is nearing its end and wonder where I’ll focus my energies if not on my life’s work.? As a photographer focuses the camera lens on one object and then another, I’ll stop focusing on career but what will be next? ?

My typical future orientation is now accompanied by some glances back at the experiences, accomplishments, relationships, lessons, and legacy of my years of work.? This is a time of transition, a big moment in my life.? Much as I’d like to, I can’t hurry this process.? I must take the time to focus on and work through this change.

Recently, my mind’s eye has focused on more personal images.? I’m letting go of big picture, caregiver concerns and am being drawn to my family, friends and community.? I’m making time to support them in their challenges and savor their special moments. ?I’m helping lead my faith community through a significant time of transition.? Recently, I met my first grandson and witnessed my son become a father for the first time… a miraculous and beautiful experience!? If I’d not shifted my focus, I would have missed it.?

I feel a sense of loss about my work, but also a growing confidence that it’s OK to let go.? All will be well.?

Much still needs to be done on behalf of caregivers, but there are others who have 21st Century views, knowledge, skills, and more youthful energy.? It’s time to handoff this work that I love to the next generation.?

Knowing when to let go is a sign of wisdom.? I’m praying for wisdom and trusting that one day soon, my shift in focus will be complete.? I’m not there yet but I can see it coming.?