Shift From ‘Thinking’ Gratitude To ‘Feeling’ it
Chester Elton
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If you haven’t noticed, gratitude is “in.” These days it’s fashionable to be grateful, especially as an antidote to stress. That means lots of well-meaning people are trying to cultivate gratitude; and sometimes with mixed results.
Srikumar Rao is an elite executive coach. He works with successful entrepreneurs and senior executives who want to have a significant impact on the world, and who are consciously on a spiritual journey.
After reading his new book “Modern Wisdom, Ancient Roots ,” I asked him about the benefits of gratitude.
He told me gratitude is the foundation for creativity and personal mastery; but, he said, if you dig a little deeper you'll find many people who claim gratitude doesn't work for them. An attendee a recent talk he gave said, “I practice gratitude. It feels good. But I don’t find that it makes my life better in any significant way. What am I missing?”
Rao's attendee went on to say she kept a journal and wrote down three things every day that she ‘should’ feel grateful for. She thought long and hard about the many ways she was fortunate and blessed. She had good health, a great job that she enjoyed, a supportive partner, financial security, and much more. Still, she didn't warm up to gratitude and couldn't see the benefits many writers claim gratitude delivers.
Professor Rao said a lot of his students feel the same way until he points out how they are missing the mark. He said most fans and followers of his work are Type A personalities who live inside their heads. They make lists. They think about everything. As such, they make lists of the ‘good things’ in their life. Good health – check. Food to eat – check. Bed to sleep in – check. And therein lies the problem, he says. You cannot think gratitude and check the box. You have to feel it.
?So how do you go from thinking gratitude to feeling it?
This is simple, but it requires conscious, deliberate effort on your part. And patience, because you have to keep at it till you get the hang of it.
My friend said: “Don’t just make lists. Instead, take just one item at a time and reflect deeply on it. See clearly how that item is embedded in your life and the stories associated with it and how it links up with other things in your life.”
As he said, that kind of deeper dive requires effort and time. But if you persist, the ‘thinking’ about gratitude morphs into ‘feeling.’ And that is when all the benefits pour down on you.
As research has found, when you are feeling gratitude, you are not angry. You are not fearful. You are not anxious. You are not nervous. You are not worried. These feelings don't co-exist with gratitude.
Professor Rao says this is how you cultivate true gratitude.
I’m grateful for you and glad you're here.
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1 年I've been exploring this concept for a couple of years now and find that it truly helps. I tend to stay in a better place when I meditate on those things that make my life so good. It takes work for sure, for me, each morning before I get out of bed and each night before going to sleep, I take about five minutes or so to meditate on all the good things in my life and what I am grateful for. I do notice I am finding more and more to be grateful for and it's a great feeling. The key is to get your subconscious to believe what you are thinking. Thanks for this article as it reinforces my thought process and can't wait to see what the next years bring.
Vice President of Business Operations
1 年good insight
Certified ESL Instructor, Author, Coach
1 年Love this! Great newletter and options for readers and mindfulness practitioners. With gratitude!
Training Manager at West Sussex Mind
1 年I agree with this premise wholeheartedly - if 'gratitude' becomes just another 'thing' then it is just as valueless, it is the meaning behind our thoughts and emotions that adds value (or takes it) form our lives.
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1 年Good morning friends We karnataka NGOs with support of SUNGMAAS INTERNATIONAL Chennai conducted project order handover and implementation work shop at UTC Bangalore.SANGAMAAS INTERNATIONAL, national secretary and IOFA president Dr Murgeshan,Dr Krishna Guruji,Dr Drakshyani and others delivered the speech about importance and utilisation of CSR Program with support of SANGAMAAS.More than 75 registered partners of karnataka attended out of that 21 NGOs got sanction orders and 6 NGOs got start up fund to collect the basic data and establishment of NGOs infrastructure.More information of the CSR support projects from SANGAMAAS contact me. Regards Sharanappa Barsi Sadhana 9886345310 [email protected]