She was called a selfish whore only because she had a job

She was called a selfish whore only because she had a job

Why has Indian society crafted such unwritten rules for women, and most importantly, why rules are only for women?

I am thankful to my parents that they brought me up as a child, and not as a boy or a girl. Unfortunately, most of the people in our society are not like my parents. The society had created roles, responsibilities, duties and boundaries for the female gender and it's highly frustrating.

I am a married man and have a self sufficient wife and an intelligent daughter just like many others in India. But, the apathy is that not everybody in the world respects woman's independence and here is one of the story of a women who was called as Whore just because she had a job

I was a working woman before marriage, but I had to leave my job as my husband was settled in some other city. I gave up my job willingly because I knew that a city cannot be a barrier for an educated person to find a job.

I got married and moved to the new city with my husband. Life was comfortable for my husband and my in-laws because I stayed at home and their son got everything on time and stayed in a house that I kept neat and clean. Months passed by and I kept behaving like a good housewife. Everything was bed of roses for everybody, even for me. I was lost in the happiness of this new phase of my life.

It is not that I underestimate housewives, but I was not ready to become one at that point of time, and thus I started my job hunt. As obvious, I did not get a job immediately but I kept trying. I considered my husband to be very supportive and discussed the problems I face while job hunting. Finally, my efforts were rewarded and I landed a job in that city.

After a month, my husband declared that he wants to shift to a new city for his career development. I requested him to stay for at least next six months as I was new to the job and it will be unprofessional to quit so early. But he stuck to his decision. Disheartened, I started looking for a new job again and it was very frustrating. Just fifteen days were left before we moved to the new city and I still didn't have a job in hand. But then a miracle happened—I got selected in a big MNC.

We moved to the new city and started enjoying our lives, but it did not go down well with my in-laws. They were very orthodox and could not tolerate the fact that a husband and wife were earning almost equal. They could not tolerate our happiness. Thus, started the family drama—as a rule, the duty of a son is far above the duty of a husband, and one of the foremost duty of a son is to disbelieve his wife just because his family has asked him to do so. Things got bad and continue to grow worse as I write this.

My husband's love and care vanished and all he had in his heart for me was hatred. Just because I have a good job, I was labelled as selfish, characterless, proud and what not. I was even told that my success is a blessing from my husband, and it is not the fruit of my struggle and education.

Why on earth should a girl earn less than her husband and compromise with her career so that she can concentrate more on her household chores? Why a man has to remain only a son and brother throughout his life?

Source - TOI

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Sounds like the poster married the wrong man. If I were in this situation, I would be interviewing divorce lawyers. It's sometimes said that you don't just marry the man; you marry the family. It seems to be true in this situation, unfortunately.

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Dear Anshav Jain, Thank you for writing and publishing this post. I can only imagine how brilliant and courageous this woman must be to have that level of mindset in such terrible circumstances. I applaud her for her bravery. I also applaud you, Anshav, for taking a stand against chauvinism and discrimination. I send love, light, peace, and support to both the woman who has endured so much hardship and to you for stating social issues that are considered "taboo" in public. India and many countries around the world must allow women to be HUMAN BEINGS and not TOOLS for use! Women's rights are human rights! ALL PEOPLE deserve the chance to have a decent, employed, and educated life!

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