Shattering The Wall Of Shame

Traveling the entrepreneurship road often brings up moments of deep healing (sometimes several times during the week!).

Pay attention to those opportunities to heal, because holding on to low-level vibrations of energy will stump your business income growth, even if you are doing all the things, like:

• following all the programs;
• Using all the systems; and
• Networking like a networking busy bee

It is when you can get to those dark clouds that are hovering over your current income goal, and heal those traumas (big or little “t” traumas) that you are able to disrupt the current loop and patterns that have been showing up in multiple aspects of your life, including your business and the income you generate, and quantum leap into big consistent wins.

I call these dark clouds “Goal Traumas” and they hold you back from going after your big goals with your whole heart and full belief.

Interestingly, some goal traumas, on the surface, seem to have very little to do with business.

For a year now I have been personally opposed to the ‘bells and whistles’ method of launching the programs I have created. I brushed it off with

I just don’t have the energy for that.

What was really happening, and came up for healing, I was unconsciously holding on to shame.

Shame that was directly affecting me on a nervous system level, and my ability to excitedly announce my new creative expressions in the world.

Associated with this shame where feelings that I would be rejected, abandoned or simply unsupported. Now, until I did the internal work on this, I couldn’t even explain that was how I was feeling. At the time the thought of a bells and whistle launch simply felt like:

Nope, not doing it.

If you are hiding behind a wall of shame, you will make sure your clients will not be able to find you.

Be assured, this is a vicious loop, because what we feel shame in, we usually don’t talk about. And because I had repressed or bypassed the shame for decades, I was not consciously aware I was carrying it into my business.

Breaking the cycle

During a recording of one of the processes I walk my clients through, I was able to start connecting the dots for myself, an event (series of events) that had produced previously unacknowledged feelings of shame and unworthiness, and undeservingness that created a loop of punishment in several areas of my life.

I grew up in a fundamentalist religious sect, it was actually a cult, where thoughts of pre-martial sex was taboo, and having children without marriage would cause you to be instantly removed from the tribe. Instant abandonment.

Well, I did both, (such the overachiever!) At 23 I became pregnant and I was not married.

For as long as I could remember one of my goals, or intentions, was to have children, 6 children. That was my intention. And the moment I found out I was pregnant with my first child, and not married, truthfully, not even in a committed relationship, I entered into a cycle of shame that I stuffed down, deep in my womb, around my co-creation into this world. Along with the feelings of shame came the punishment. And that punishment meant I could not allow in support. I waited a long time to announce my pregnancy. Huge parts of me were excited to see and hold my baby, and there was a part of me that couldn’t announce this pregnancy, let alone talk about it excitedly, because I had broken a rule I was never supposed to break.

But, I carried on, and didn’t acknowledge the shame, went to may wellness appointments, went to the job and acted like everything was A-OK.

Two years later I was pregnant for the second time, again unmarried….visibly showing at work and didn’t talk about it at all. Until someone asked. The cycle of shame, guilt and punishment continued. And I was well practiced at acting like everything was A-OK.

And, two years later I was pregnant for the third time, (and married shortly after) the cycle of shame and punishment firmly established. The punishment had morphed a bit, now I had added an physically and emotionally abusive husband into the mix.

Oh yeah, I was in the loop. And I wasn’t aware that this was a loop, it just felt like, this is what it is…and ‘it’ didn’t feel good.

Shame and resulting punishment surrounding my ability to create. Shame and resulting punishment surrounding my ability to bring forth life.

Connecting the dots…..

Can you see how this pattern, this loop of shame and punishment would stop me in my tracks whenever I considered launching my new baby, a new program creation, into my business?

Yes, there was excitement.

Yes, there were some levels of support.

But announcing to the world with full-on excitement, glee and enthusiasm and a full fledged launch? Hell to the no…I couldn't do it, even though I couldn't put my finger on why. It that the shame/punishment loop and the inner critic that was running just beneath the surface, unheard consciously, but felt deeply felt, that constantly said:

no, you don't deserve the reward yet

you haven't fully learned your lesson yet

you haven’t even acknowledged the feelings of

shame or embarrassment how dare you get

excited about anything?

You haven't learned your lesson yet, and until you

learn your lesson, you do not deserve the reward.

The healing of this loop started with consciousness. Clarity of what the goal trauma loop was and why I would feel crushed at the possibility that no one would respond to my offer, of if someone ghosted me after committing to joining.

And now, that this was uncovered, processed, healed and released, it feels like a millstone has been taken off of my neck and my shoulders, I feel lighter and more present and excited about announcing the birth of my co-creation.

By doing the internal work, my external world must shift, and in my business that means more women impacted and revenue generated.

When you heal and release a goal trauma, the memory is still there. The event(s) still happened. But the trigger of shame and loop of punishment has been disrupted. The internal glass ceiling, the wall of shame, has been shattered.

And that is just one of the processes that I guide my clients through in The Monetize Your Mind Success System, as they double their income, doing what they love.

With processes dripped weekly over a 14 week period, and 6 months of weekly group coaching, together we:

• uncover the root sources and connected trauma of your current wealth, confidence and joy ceilings;
• heal your current wealth, confidence and joy ceilings;
• open up to the next desired level of personal and financial empowerment and freedom;
• step into a more empowered version of yourself. The version of yourself that is confident, joyful, enthusiastic, fearless and real; and
• make steady, enthusiastic progress toward your goals while manifesting unexpected support and opportunities.

The Monetize Your Mind Success System is for you if:

You are currently employed, earning 6 figures, and yearn to make the corporate leap to turn your current ‘side hustle passion project’ into a thriving business.

This is for you if you have been working in your small business for a while now and can’t seem to get out of a boom and bust cycle and create a steady flow of income for yourself.

This is for you are a high-achiever who can not pinpoint why you are not getting the results everyone around you seems to be getting.

This is for you if you secretly feel like a fraud, and dread the day someone will find out that you aren’t at all qualified.

This is not for you if you are unwilling to get a little messy, while having fun, during our time together.

Jumpstart hitting your 2020 income goal by starting today!

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