Shattered Walls: Humanizing Vulnerabilities

Theories can be stories, and stories can further picture our thoughts, which further instill a mindset and change of opinion among. Imagine a place nestled between rolling hills and the downstream sea. (PS: Take yourself through this story.) In the woods lived a girl named Hanah.

She was a honey soul, sweet, and kind. She had all the comfort that usually rises up the beat for people—from a cosy home to chased graduation to subside it with literature hobbies and parents standing tall for her. She invested herself in the corporate scheme and had decent returns on it. From strict associates to easy-going buddies, everything was set in place.

Now this lets us visualise the picture-perfect life we aspire to have on stage. Here is where the narrative shift occurs. A girl who supposedly has everything refrains from accepting and masks behind the perfection syndrome. She works out as a highly independent, strong, carefully constructed woman who hides those painful nights, deep cries, raw faces, guilty actions, and undermining confidence in her voluptuous body.

She yearns for unmasked people where she can be out like a baby. She yearns for all those years she spent overthinking and yearns even more to accept the pitfalls she had to go through, from embarrassment to personal failure. She basically surrounds herself with denialism and thus births the word of the day: Vulnerabilities.

Revolving around it now begins with caged self, and pretention to be good always. It usually isn’t about having a platform to spill that out but about the readiness to accept the flaws and actually display them as they are. The biggest hit that shouts here is the fear of judgement. The society has a defined set of rules of action for every situation and any imbalances from them are brutally backfired with serious implications. Thus people pleasing and stereotyping lets people hide their original self from the world.

Vulnerabilities as a source even acts as a guarding mechanism that cushions us from the external attack and be within ourselves. People sometimes traumatize within and simmer it within themselves. Now to break this momentum requires compassion and a stroke of self-love injected with acceptance.

Acceptance of your curves Acceptance of your emotional unavailability Acceptance of your non negotiable Acceptance to boundaries Acceptance for differentiating misjudgement to mistreatment. And ultimately acceptance to what you truly stand for. These “to the perfect”, all ranks and criteria checked to proper formatted individuals are resume perfects but not life. A crack, an unsolved mystery, some hidden emotions to not decided timelines is something that defines a human and lets humanize these so that vulnerabilities become outspoken and you might wonder that it’s not just you but a whole lot of you in this space.

It’s okay to be uncomfortable. Feel good under your skin and thoughts. Embrace inconsistencies and sheer hard work with failures being said, acne to love handles, impatience to anxiety – everything is a whole.

Vulnerabilities act as a glue that holds the mosaic of our relationships, each piece distinctively different yet forming a beautiful whole.

Even I fumbled around a thousand times before writing this down, but cheer up this is what I am, and to people maybe Hanah or just me.

Share your story and you have my ear.

Cheers.