Sharing pain will surely reduce it

There are some things in life that give pleasure to start with but later become a pain. These things are …love : once we are in love ..the starting things are definitely different that the later Days …initially we are happy and they are the reason of our happiness …whereas for some people they are the only reason of their …attention : sometimes you are the centre of attraction and all the eyes are on you , you are the happiest ………….slowly you start getting addicted to it, and if the next time you won't get the same ..it hurts a lot ..

Appreciation : appreciation is just like a drug …u start getting habitual are often very happy about it …but if someone else takes your credit and that person is praised …definitely it's we who gets hurt. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. As long as you are happy being a loner then that’s awesome. I don’t trust people anymore either because I find so many give out mixed signals and come on super hot and then super cold, I’m just done with it all.

I am a sensible person who likes things straight forward and no emotional head games. But it seems every single person I try to let my walls down to always end up disappointing me and by that I have learned it’s best to focus on the self and become a better person. We waste too much time trying to figure out other people when we should be discovering who we are deep inside and do the things that make us happy and fulfilled in life.

But a big no only if you share every little problem just to feel lighter. Because once you begin sharing your pain with others, you realize that it really relieves you and makes you happy instantly. Gradually, you'll frequently seek the people around you to listen to your problems even if they couldn't give you any effective solution. In the long run, you may find yourself a very weak soul to bear shallow misshapen. You may eventually end up realising that those 'Messiahs’ are ignoring you or lacking interest to have a conversation with you as before. You might begin to feel like that of the ancient Mariner all alone in the mid of a huge ocean when there's nobody available to hear you.

You might begin to feel dejected for no reason and depression takes over you.Remember : Not every time people will act as a sympathy machine. It's okay to open up and talk about your tough days with your well wishers but prior to that, always do take a deep breath and analyze if it's really that hard to bear within. Believe me, that is just a temporary pain and would fade with time. Practice the power of patience and strengthen yourself emotionally.

It might not make you happy but eventually your mind will learn to let it go, perhaps your heart too. The best person to share your feelings, your pain, anxiety is yourself. You need not find answers outside, as introspection helps a lot when you have no one to share your pain with. The reason could be anything, may be you don’t have such people around you with whom you can share or you don’t want to burden them with your worries.

The true answers lie within yourself. Trust me you can give the best advice to yourself, because no one has gone through what you have felt, and no matter how much you try to make someone understand, no one can fill in your shoes and live the time you have gone through. Follow some small steps: Analyze the root cause of the pain. Realize and accept your mistakes which led you to it. Its always our mistakes which lead us to the pain, no one else has the power unless you allow them to. Take the blame yourself first, before pushing it on others who were involved. Cry it out, if required.Resolve not to make such mistakes again.Love yourself first and don’t worry if you still have regrets, they save you from re-living the pain. Cheers!