Sexuality — The Last Frontier of Being an Expressed Adult?

Sexual energy is often referred to as lifeforce energy.

Hence this is my definition of Sexuality: Your relationship with your lifeforce energy (the innate energy that resides inside you).

You can born with strong energy (nature) and/ or cultivate it (nurture) e.g. exercise/ food. Regardless whether you have strong/ weak energy (vitality), you can learn how to manage/ master/ channel it… and it can be channeled for greater fulfillment/ success/ mastery of self e.g. masterpieces, engineering, humanitarian work etc.

To me, it is one of life’s tragedies that we can learn/ master every other aspect of ourselves (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, financial etc), but when the energy we were born with and continues to arise from within us – there is so much shame/ blame/ guilt/ misinformation about it.

I’ve said this before and I say this again. I am so passionate about sexuality education because it seems as if it is the last frontier of stepping into an adult – and that knowledge hasn’t been provided for most people.

As a born and bred Singaporean Chinese, I’ve also viewed it as my obligation and duty to share (especially with my fellow Asians) everything I know. Many need to recognise that positive sexuality, sexual expression and confidence is not a ‘western’ thing. You can still have their cultural/ religious/ familial values yet have positive attitudes and expressions around sex and sexuality – and still feel whole, complete, healthy and happy.

My work is to support as many people as I can. This is why I have produced a lot of content: from books (4), YouTube videos (700+), podcasts (3 years), written articles (countless by now), online freebies/ campaigns etc with the goal of educating/ sharing more to help more people.

Then of course, I am also available via private sessions (individuals/ couples) here.

Hint, hint… I am here to support/ help/ serve you – not judge. And you can find my workshops here as well.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.