Sexless Marriage Dead

Your wife is not your mother. Your wife is not your sister. Your wife is your sex partner. She is your life partner. Intimacy is the number one reason for marriage. You can hire a chef. You can take your clothes for laundry. You can adopt children. You can partner with your business associates to earn money. If you don’t sleep with your wife, dissolve your marriage. Sexlessness in marriage is a deal breaker.

No husband should beg for sex from his wife. Woman, your body belongs to your husband. You have no right to decide when to have sex. You can only take a sex break by mutual consent. Here’s the Sex Golden Rule in marriage - when EITHER wants, NOT when BOTH are ready. Either fulfill your marital DUTY or dissolve your marriage. In marriage, you belong to your husband, unless he is abusive.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 - The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

Sex in marriage is not a side issue. It is the central issue. In Jesus’ words, “The two become one flesh – Matthew 19:5 & Mark 10:7.” That’s why you willingly said, “I DO” in the presence of many witnesses.

“I DO you and you DO me and we DON’T DO anybody else.” Marriage is about DOING each other - No Doing, No Marriage.

But all is not lost my precious brother and sister. Address the gaps in your marriage and agree principally that you’ll never again deny each other no matter the ups and downs of life. Intimate couples are able to resolve their fights lovingly. Where intimacy fails, fault finding is inevitable and simple differences swell into colossal fights. Get closer to your wife until you no longer know where she ends and where you begin.

DR. K. N. JACOB