Sexing 2.0

If we turn back and think of our habits from a few years of perspective, we are downright weird compared to our predecessors.

Just take a look at our sexual and sentimental habits for instance. We’ve changed love letters to WhatsApp messages. And these don’t take months to arrive if our beloved lives on a different city, let alone country. Not to mention that without changing app we can video call them or even send them dirty pics to turn on the mood (so to speak).

This is just one of the many examples of proximity to our friends and loved ones. Where our parents may have needed some fair few months of courting, we just go out for a few drinks and pick up some phone numbers. That is to say, if we go out at all, chances are we just kick back and relax at home while we use a dating app to meet somebody. Whether “meeting” is the actual purpose or just a booty-call will suffice, is up to the users.

And things like these have made it so much easier to meet new people. As communication binds us together tighter with other people and other topics, old taboos have no chance but to fade into oblivion or at the very least, adapt and accept that what was so censurable some years back is just new world order today.

Just take porn. 2010 measurements over the top million trafficked sites declare roughly 4.23% of them to be of erotic content. That’s around 42,300 sites out of a million. And to think less than a century before that, erotic content was pretty much limited to going to your nearest museum and taking a longer than usual peep at the Venus of Urbino or whatever other Donna Nuda the curator had decided to put up. A daguerreotype of a Victorian lady exhibiting her ankle was the height of heights whereas, right now, some of the stuff on the web is just plain wrong.  

So, we can all pretty much agree that sexual relationships are not much of an issue anymore. Nor is erotic content, nor is sending your current bed-buddie a pic of your natural awesomeness in its prime (least alone asking them to return the favour). Sending a spicy text is out of the blue, and casual hook-ups are there for those who don’t want commitment but also have no wish to skip out on the fun. And a great deal of this freedom of expression, is no more and no less than technology opening doors for us. Not just to our work, or utilities. No, new tech means new ideas and new ways of thinking. So, in a funny sort of way, in this aspect, technology has opened our minds along with our flies.

But this doesn’t mean that no sort of control is required. With such a brutal sexy information traffic and awareness, some people get the wrong impression. They confuse attention with harassment and sometimes speak their top of mind a bit too quickly. And let’s face it, our prefrontal cortex filtering most of the things we think is a necessary thing to cohabit in society.

Another interesting note is that children have access to these technological advances, and while some of them might be debatably sexual mature, they sure as hell aren’t adults and cannot be expected to act like them.

So, in a nutshell, technology has altered our relations, all of them, and quite specifically our sexual ones, as well as our view of coitus and our approach to it. But the evolution of society into a transparent, healthy basis for people is not quite there yet. Let’s hope the next revolutions will bring us up to a scratch and… Who knows what our mindset on relations is going to be like in the next 10 years?

Let’s just hope Grindr still exists… =P