Seven Reasons To Stop Lying To Yourself

Seven Reasons To Stop Lying To Yourself

Dealing with the truth can be painful, but the more we let the truth prevail, the better and easier life becomes over the long run… can you put the truth over anything else?

It’s hard.

And we all lie to ourselves.

I did sixty lengths last week in the baths, I was sure of it. It was only 56 though and I know it.

Small lies.

Bigger lies include “I am putting all the effort I can into my writing.”

I’m not.

I slip at times.

And there we go, identifying some of the lies I am telling myself already tells me what I need to improve on.

It gives you a sense of direction

What are you lying about?

Are you telling people that you go to the gym, but you didn’t?

What about the number of hours you worked this week?

Did you tell your friends you started on your business plan, but you are still none the wiser about how you’re going to get started?

Words have power.

And your thoughts do too.

You might just say “Yeah I’ll do that tomorrow.”

Do it now.

Direct yourself with those lies.

Put more hours in.

Go to the gym more often.

Whatever you say you do more than you do it, do it.

You’ll find you will stop telling lies.

You’ll just do what you need to do, and you won’t have to tell anyone about it.

You will validate yourself.

There is no need to over-compensate in conversations and tell everyone about how good you are because of the hours you put in… you let the results speak for themselves.

You can hold a sense of integrity

Do you say to someone ‘I will be there tomorrow, no problem’ – only to know you will be texting them at a later date because you know you cannot make it?

Did you tell your colleague you can do something by Friday, knowing the quality will be diminished because you have to rush?

Yeah.

We all do it.

Let’s stop.

Let’s just say what we mean in that moment, and stick to what we say we’re going to do.

The worst thing in the world for me is you telling me you will do something, then simply not doing it.

What is all that about?

Recognising those lies we tell ourselves is one thing, but then handling small truths such as ‘I won’t be able to make it’ make us much stronger when it comes to building relationships with others and interacting with the world with integrity.

Build better relationships with others

If you lie to yourself, you lie to other people.

The stories we tell that we exaggerate.

People respect authenticity.

They don’t respect over-exaggerated claims of ‘the funniest thing you would have ever seen in your life’ stories.

It probably wasn’t that funny, was it?

Did it even happen?

That doesn’t even begin to explain the levels of deceit that some people hold to others.

Concentrate on the things that matter… the truth.

Not lies and deceit.

You will find that the relationships you build with others become more authentic in themselves.

Do the honourable things

The truth comes with honour.

Is everyone else in a culture of malpractice? Do the right thing.

Don’t succumb to your environment.

Lies can become part of the culture, part of the fabric of society.

And it doesn’t matter how big, people will believe them.

Don’t play to the crowd, stick to the script, no matter how uncomfortable.

Do the honourable thing, not what is easiest in the moment.

Tell the truth.

Deal with the facts.

Don’t let the elephant in the room go unnoticed.

Have longevity and prosper over decades

Lies are an abuse of power in the moment that deteriorates and unfolds over time.

The truth is everpresent.

Which side do you want to be on?

I want to be on the side of the truth, so I can roll with it forever.

I don’t want to be limited by the time period that lies exist within.

Those two points are powerful enough to consider the overall structure of this… you will be prosperous over decades with the truth, people will know what to expect.

Liars are caught out eventually.

And they have to find somebody else to lie to.

If you tell the truth, people will stick by you… for longer than you can imagine.

Become bigger than life

Do you want people to be attracted to you, in the sense that they will keep you around for long periods without being fed up of your company?

Tell the truth.

People like the truth.

They might not appreciate it in the present.

But when they reflect on who they want in their team, you’ll be there.

The truth is bigger than life itself.

And you can become bigger in life if you start dealing with the truth more often.

Fake people won’t like it, but who wants to be around them anyway?

Filter out the weeds with your truth and keep your circle small, with only other truthful, respectful people in it.

Stay sane…

Is there any other way?

Deal with the truth. Maintain your sanity. Hold down your ground.

Know who you are and deal with the consequences of everything you say, do and feel.

Trust in yourself and stay sane by sticking by the truth, no matter what the occasion.

You’ll thank yourself for it in the long-run.

Do you lie to yourself?

Do you lie to others?

Have you ever exaggerated a story to impress someone?

Told someone you would be there for them, knowing you couldn’t make it?

Have you hidden from the truth or been afraid to voice your opinion out of fear of being ostracised or otherwise hated upon?

Screw all that.

Stick to the truth.

It serves you better in the long run.

Appeasing others at the moment is not worth the damage it does to them over the long run.

And lying to ourselves just makes us weaker.

Deal only with the truth.

A noble act.

For a noble human being – you.

Good luck.

It’s a tough road when you don’t deal with bullshit.

A lot of people are full of it.