Settle or Struggle?
Monotonous. The word in itself sounds like a suffering. Like it is sad to sound the way it does. But what does it really imply in life? Is monotonous good or bad? Some say monotonous is good, it means you are settled, you have a fixed routine, you know what is to be done, how it is to be done and when it needs to be done. You are sorted in a way. No room for surprises, no space for the universe to throw a curve ball, no scope for life to turn out to be a roller coaster ride. It’s all laid out, the steps, the procedure, the methodology. Let’s see the other side now. Let’s say you are living an exhilarating life. You are living an exciting, lively and enthralling life. You don’t plan much and just go with the flow. Waiting for new opportunities to challenge you and force you to think out of the box. Contrary to a settled monotonous life, you are living a constantly on the move life with no time to take a break because there is so much more to do.
Now if you sit and take a moment and think about it, we very casually use these terminologies to address people and their lives, basis our quick observation! We think these decisions are made just by this person we are addressing, we conveniently ignore what background would have shaped up these decisions, or what is the reason they maybe a misfit and still struggling hard to fit in, or what is it that makes someone believe in their passion so much that they risk everything to follow it even after repeated failures only to one day achieve what they always knew they deserved, what makes one settle and what makes someone struggle. And how do you know if settling or struggling is for your good or only going to deprive you of anything else that comes your way. It happens once in a while when life seems monotonous, something pops up suddenly and shakes you from your very core, making you question every decision you ever made, the way you live your life, the path you chose to follow for a lifetime. You can either fight back and survive this or you get pulled down.
What really pulls us down? Is it our high expectations or the disappointments, is it us when we give up or the people around us who didn’t believe in us, this or that? Or is it our issues? Coming to “issues”. Do we really have issues or we like to think we have issues? Is it really a word or a situation anymore? Seems like more of an excuse that we carry around. Our issues are what we blame when we do not know how to respond to a particular situation. We use it as a shield to protect ourselves at times. How about we try to move past our issues? Accepting we have issues and reiterating that will not really get us anywhere, will it? So who is going to help us get over these issues? Are we waiting for someone to help us out of it or are we going to do something about it ourselves?
There are moments that make or break us. It is said it is all in how you want to look at it, your perspective, pessimism/optimism, bright side/dark side, what you can gain vs what you could lose. Time and again you have to make choices. To wake up or sleep, to work or quit, to continue or delete, to move forward or take a step back. What if you can’t choose? What if it’s too soon or too late? What if you don’t actually have a control on the way you choose? Sometimes no matter which side you pick the little voices always tell you the other way is better. You yourself at times lose conviction, the conviction that was once so strong not even you could break it. But that is what happens. You think, like, plan, prepare, dream and then suddenly you are thrown a curveball out of nowhere. All the planning, all the preparation, the entire thought process you had put into creating something new, dreaming of a new beginning, all of it disappears. So what are you going to choose…
Settle or Struggle???