Set boundaries and focus on positive environments where you can thrive!

The principle of removing oneself from situations or relationships where one feels undervalued or disrespected is a vital aspect of self-care and personal growth. Some examples or situations are given here with approach in various contexts:

1. Family context: Family dynamics can be complex, and sometimes love can be coupled with dysfunction. If you find yourself consistently disrespected or undervalued by family members, it’s essential to recognize the patterns. Instead of a dramatic exit, communicate your need for your space. Boundaries can be established in a way that emphasizes your needs without inciting conflict. Gradually reducing time spent with certain family members can help you assess whether the relationship can be improved or if distance is necessary. Understand that your value doesn't stem from familial ties alone. Prioritize your emotional well-being.

2.Situation of friendship: Friendships should enhance your life, not detract from it. When friends belittle, disrespect, or fail to appreciate you, it can lead to emotional distress. If it feels appropriate, share your feelings about their behavior. If they dismiss your feelings, it may be time to reconsider the friendship. If situation does not improve,allow the friendship to fade by reducing your availability and engagement. This subtle approach avoids unnecessary drama. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift you and show genuine respect, strengthening your support network. There is mythological tale about the friendship between a poor Brahmin boy and a member of the royal family. Krishna and Sudama were childhood friends who studied together at Sandipani's ashrama. Sudama was from a poor family and was unable to support his family. His wife urged him to ask Krishna for help. Sudama visited Krishna in Dvaraka with a gift of parched rice. Krishna welcomed Sudama with honor and made him sit on his throne. Krishna washed Sudama's feet with tears. Krishna created luxurious palaces for Sudama where his hut had stood

3.Society: Societal norms can often lead to feelings of alienation or disrespect, especially if one feels marginalized or not valued. Navigating societal pressures can be challenging. Find Like-Minded communities and engage with groups, clubs, or organizations that reflect your values and respect you. If certain social settings consistently trigger negative feelings, it’s okay to minimize your involvement. Sometimes, disengagement from disrespectful societal norms starts with advocacy. Share your insights without confrontation. Communities are also rich in resources, that is where their collective aspect comes into play. We are all members of many communities (family, work, neighborhood, etc.), and we constantly move in and out of them, depending on the situation. Community is where we find comfort in difficult times. When things are not going well in one community, we have the option to move to another.

I read many stories of Panchatantra at my childhood and Moral of the story: “True friends always come to your rescue. "The friends of the tortoise rescued it from the hunter's trap, and they lived happily ever after.

4,Close relationships, whether romantic or platonic, can sometimes become sources of discomfort. Recognizing disrespect from someone close to you is crucial for mental health. Self-Reflection:Assess whether the relationship is worth salvaging. Reflect on positive and negative aspects before making a decision. If you believe a constructive conversation is possible, share your feelings. If disrespect persists, it signals the need for distance. Your mental and emotional health should come first. Removing yourself from toxic dynamics can allow for healing and personal growth.

Conclusion:

Removing yourself from places or relationships where you feel undervalued or disrespected is a powerful form of self-advocacy and self-care. This approach doesn’t require confrontation, drama, or arguments. Instead, it encourages personal reflection, setting boundaries, and focusing on positive environments where you can thrive. Recognizing your worth and making conscious choices about whom you spend time with can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Jeevan Deshpande(Social activist &Businessman)

Ex General Manager M&M Ltd SSBU