SELF TALK AND SNICKERS CAKE

A couple of days ago, I had to have the cake. THE CAKE. It’s a slice of heaven. It’s also a slice of approximately nine gazillion calories. (I may have exaggerated slightly). But that morning, I had worked out, so that I could eat the cake, guilt-free... I just want you to know, I could only manage half the cake. I took the rest home, which was just as good, if not better, with a bucket of tea, especially as I ate it while watching the extremely exciting F.A. Cup Final.

Sometimes we have to feed our soul with similar sweet treats. When we are feeling a bit sensitive, we need the equivalent version of satisfying sweetness, spoon fed into us; words, to make us feel warm and fuzzy, and ultimately soothed, just like tea and cake.

The practice of Self-Talk is intended to drown out negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones. Cracking the way we speak to ourselves is one of the most difficult challenges that is vital to developing a healthy mindset.

Our inner critic could possibly be our most lethal enemy, because it’s already infiltrated, and it lives within us. Shutting down negative self-talk and self-criticism takes a battle of wills. Against yourself.

Don’t worry if you don’t get this right straight away. Small amounts of progress is better than none.

Spend the whole day talking to yourself as you would your best friend, and notice how much kinder you are to yourself. If that seems daunting to you, try for just one hour, then two. Then try again the following day.

You may think I’m nuts, but in serious cases, I’ve been known to have my clients set timers and reminders. Before you scoff, try it. You’ve only got a couple of hours to lose. But you won’t lose. You will only gain. Set an alarm on your phone, that goes off every two hours. It helps to use a positive label for the alarm, like

I’m doing better and better

I’m strong and resilient and I can do this

I’m consistently moving towards my goal

I'm sure you can come up with something of your own that's much more meaningful to you, they are simply to give you an idea.

Notice what you say to yourself as you get dressed and look in the mirror, or if you have a slight mishap, like spilling a bit of coffee, or forgetting to return a communication. Just before you berate yourself, imagine it is your best friend, needing a bit of kindness and encouragement.

Pay careful attention to your self-talk. Your inner voice will give you all the clues you need as to why you feel frustrated in any area of your life. You assume you can always hear your inner voice, but you will have become accustomed to it. You may even have tuned out of its frequency, and treated your inner voice like white noise. Unless you have learned to sit and listen, in quiet contemplation, in meditation or in trance, you may not have actually heard it clearly, if you don’t believe me, just try it for a bit.

Just try really actively listening.

To yourself.

You will realise just how harsh you have been on you, and you may see how difficult you have made things for you, just by self-talk.

Being kinder to yourself will lift your vibration. It will lift you high, and take you to wherever you want to be.

Give it a go. Let me know if you do.

If you would like to know more about how I can help you develop your own powerful emotional resilience so you can thrive in tough times, please book a call with me https://calendly.com/tanyamannrennick/30min

I coach you to recalibrate your emotions so that you can have better business and personal relationships

I use psycho education, meditation, visualisation both in and out of trance and, where legal, plant medicine, but most of all, I use my wisdom, and that which I cannot explain

Tanya