Self-sabotage
Terry Allen
President at Fidelis Government Relations I 37 yr veteran of Capitol Hill, campaigns & policy advocacy I Founder @ A Mentor For Me, Inc. | Entrepreneur, Mentorship Advocate
One of the greatest threats to personal growth and development is actually something
that most of us do to ourselves.
It’s one of the most common forms of self-sabotage taking place today.
And most of us don’t realize we’re doing it.
We isolate ourselves.
We do it intentionally, but we also do it passively. Think about this: Just about
everything in our culture pushes us toward isolation.?We can get our food delivered to
our door without talking to another person. We can get our news, our entertainment, our
education, even our Sunday morning sermons — everything, online without talking to,
or interacting with anyone.?
And so people today don’t believe they need each other.?
Whether through intentional effort, or through passive acceptance?of the status quo, the
result is the same; we live largely private, isolated lives.?
This is very unhealthy.
Isolation breeds a limited, and even a myopic perspective. It stunts growth and
development, impedes critically needed social skills, results in a lack of personal
accountability, and can lead to some extremely unhealthy practices, habits and
lifestyles.
Most people don’t realize it, but isolation is actually their enemy.
You and I need other people to help us. To assist us. To encourage us. But we also
need other people to inconvenience us. To challenge us. To make us better. To correct
us.
This is not just true in the workplace or the marketplace. I do a lot of work in the faith-
based sector as well. I work with a lot of Christian leaders. Isolation is a crisis there too.
Brain scientists Jim Wilder and Michael Hendricks are doing great work on how people
learn and how people change behavior. They find that true life change doesn’t happen
when people only get access to the right information, data, facts, truth and doctrine (left
brain activity). This is only 1 component.
True life change occurs when people encounter information, facts, and truth?and?are?in
connected relationships with others (right brain activity).??These?connected relationships
are the 2nd component.
A connected community is the context in which true life change occurs.??
My good friend Eric Bents (who I met here on Linked-In) describes these results of
isolation as relational poverty. Relational poverty, he says produces unhealthy people
that lead dysfunctional lives. Ultimately, relational poverty can easily lead to material
poverty. ( www.TheStoreHouseMovement.com )
I founded A Mentor For Me to bring Christian men of various ages together to learn to
be mentors.? We call our training series?our?Fast Forward. Men?come together in order to
learn to become Christian mentors and to be mentored.? Though our?Fast Forward
series:
Men form connections with other men
It’s quite powerful.?We have seen men’s lives impacted.
And we're just getting started.
We have 13 trained mentors that are engaging in groups and one on one with mentees.
And we have over 125 more that have enlisted to become mentors.?
We have ongoing mentor / mentee orientations starting monthly on a rolling basis.?Fast
Forward?is?a series of Zoom-based sessions (15 weeks long) that are powerful.?
If you are serious about personal growth and personal development, and are looking to
move from isolation (from relational poverty toward relational abundance) then I invite
you to join us for?Fast Forward.
If you are looking for a Christian mentor, then this is the place.
If you are looking to mentor young men, then this is the place.
Our next Fast Forward mentor orientation session starts Monday,?Feb. 5. You can sign
up at the link below. Act now. It’s Free!
Click here to find your mentor today:? https://amentor4me.me/monday-fast-forward-
signup/