Self-love as a source of power

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For many years I used to "downgrade" myself believing other's people ideas about love and happiness. Somehow in the spiral/highway of life, we are sometimes very naive not to realize which examples are we really following or people we listen to.

This is why most coaches speak about the influence of negative people in your life, which is not to be underestimated. The way it works is that some people/relationships will awaken in you rather than your "good" and positive/capable side, your "negative" side, and then they will say that they were always right about you and that you were not worth all the love or all the happiness and success that you truly deserve.

The real lie these people make to themselves and to you is that they care for you when in reality they only experience something called "conditional love". They don't accept you for who you are, but rather for "what you bring" to the table. This is unfortunately the way many people think also about love and family relationships.

Therefore, here is my advice for today and the week: "Think about all these moments when as a kid or adult your parents or people around you expressed real love to you. Nurture these memories in you, and make sure they come to the surface in those moments in which people around you want to make you feel bad, down, not worthy, or not capable.

One thing is to make a mistake at work or privately, another thing is when people are sabotaging you and your success. Believing that you deserve love for no reason, is the starting point to a healthier and happier life.

I say goodbye for today wishing you a lovely week and with a quote. Many nuances possible here but I think you get my message:

"Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are". John Wooden.

Wishing you an amazing day and week. "Live YOUR best life. You deserve it".