Self-love isn't what you think it is

Self-love isn't what you think it is

Let’s be really clear here.

“You” do not hate yourself.

Never have.

Never will.

It’s essential to GET IT that the voices inside your head hate YOU.

Seeing yourself as the recipient of inner bullying and abuse shifts the focus from “hating yourself” to experiencing “compassion for yourself.”

Because it’s incredibly tough to go through life with this constant negativity directed at you.

You need someone who will stand in your corner no matter what.

You can BE that for yourself.

From this stance, you can see that this abused person (YOU) doesn’t deserve any of this—no matter how many atrocities they supposedly committed.

You can see they’ve been talked into unfortunate behaviors and fooled into believing pretty horrible things about themselves, others, and the world.

You can choose to help this person who’s stuck move forward.

As Conscious, Compassionate Awareness, you can accept yourself exactly as you are and help yourself become any way you want to be.

That’s what “loving yourself” is really about.

要查看或添加评论,请登录

Alex Mill的更多文章

  • The antidote to job fatigue

    The antidote to job fatigue

    I tell a story from my book A Shift to Love about being sent to the monastery’s kitchen to work every single day of my…

    2 条评论
  • Zen awareness practice is hard

    Zen awareness practice is hard

    Spiritual practice will never be popular. I’m not talking about reading spiritual books, watching spiritual videos…

  • Is presence passive?

    Is presence passive?

    There’s this common misconception that stillness is the same thing as “doing nothing.” In this way, spiritual practice…

  • What is your job in Zen Awareness Practice?

    What is your job in Zen Awareness Practice?

    I’m fond of reminding my students and clients that the voices’ job is to draw you into unconsciousness so they can make…

  • How to practice presence with resistance or change

    How to practice presence with resistance or change

    In the practice I offer, we use everything in your experience to see how you are kept safe, small, stuck, and…

  • How to (REALLY) Be Present

    How to (REALLY) Be Present

    Whenever people hear about the concept of “being present,” their next line of thinking usually goes to “So does that…

  • Superman can’t

    Superman can’t

    “The fulfillment of everything you think you want will entail the destruction of everything you currently think you…

  • A Worthy Problem

    A Worthy Problem

    “Do not get lost in a sea of despair. Be hopeful, be optimistic.

  • My Decisionless Decision

    My Decisionless Decision

    I didn’t decide to train in a Zen monastery. I didn’t say to myself one day, “I think I’d like to give up everything I…

社区洞察

其他会员也浏览了