A self-discovery journey (part II)

?? When we start our self-discovery journey, it means we decided on purpose a journey of maturity and growth. Everyone needs to acknowledge that the pace of our growth depends upon the speed at which we grow out of habits, beliefs and attitudes which do not serve us.

? Do you remember the one main idea in the previous article? Based on our perceptions, our past experiences we develop a belief system.

Another important truth-based principle related to all our beliefs, attitudes, values, experiences is the one that as human beings we all are meaning making machines. ??

“Our beliefs become our thoughts,

Our thoughts become our words,

Our words become our habits,

Our habits become our values,

Our values become our destiny.”

?? Core beliefs include the thoughts and assumptions we hold about ourselves, others, and the world around us. They are deep-seated beliefs which often go unrecognised and yet they consistently affect our lives. Core beliefs affect what you achieve and how you operate in the world as a whole. Negative, and often inaccurate, core beliefs will drastically reduce your chances of joy and self-fulfilment in life. 

?? In the previous article I have mentioned few types of beliefs, mainly limiting ones. Our whole lives are dictated by such inner beliefs and, most importantly to note, sometimes our core beliefs are inaccurate!

LIMITING BELIEFS ARE UNCONSCIOUS. IF WE ARE NOT VERY AWARE ABOUT THEM, HOW CAN WE DISMANTLE THEM? Quite interesting, isn’t it…?

How we view ourselves will determine how we go on to act and to behave.

??????As I promised this second part of my article will be dedicated to QUESTIONS, 50 questions ?? to reflect upon, some of them are really provoking and tough questions. Be massively honest with you when answering these questions, it’s like looking in the mirror to ourselves objectively, look deep into yourself, mostly at the 90% part of the iceberg. Self-awareness is the key! Grow in your awareness! ??

?? And here we are:

1) In what ways am I living outside of my integrity and compromising my personal values?

2) What have I left unfinished or unresolved that currently needs my attention?

3) What deep needs do I have that are not getting met?

4) What am I fighting against that I can choose to release?

5) What legacy am I leaving behind in the world after I’ve gone?

6) In what ways could I be more engaged in life?

7) In what ways am I behaving inauthentically?

8) Who (or what) am I tolerating that I do not want in my life?

9) How am I making choices based on ‘I should’ as opposed to ‘I want?

10) In what ways am I behaving as a ‘reactor’ rather than as an ‘initiator’?

11) How am I not accepting someone that I love for who they really are?

12) How do I diminish other people in order to make myself feel better?

13) Are there any areas in which I’m holding back forgiveness, and if so where?

14) In what ways am I manipulating someone to get my own needs met?

15) What consistent negative thought patterns do I have?

16) In what ways do I allow other people to cross my boundaries?

17) What weaknesses or vulnerabilities am I afraid to share with those I love?

18) How am I completely present with those that I love when I am with them?

19) In what areas do I have a ‘lack’ mentality?

20) In what areas am I making my own life more difficult or complicated than it needs to be?

21) Are my beliefs about life, religion, my spouse, my family, my children, the absolute truth?

22) In what ways am I using busyness, work, television, or the computer to avoid facing something?

23) How is my living space a reflection of my inner world?

24) In what ways am I compromising my health or mistreating my body?

25) What am I passionate about? How can I spend more time pursuing the things I’m passionate about?

26) In what areas of my life do I need to set goals?

27) How have I miscommunicated or created a misunderstanding?

28) How much of my time do I spend focusing on things of the past or worrying about the

future?

29) What events am I focusing on in the past that are hindering my ability to live fully in the present?

30) In what ways do I consider ‘I’m not deserving or worthy’?

31) What relationships need my time, care and attention?

32) In what areas am I waiting for someone else to take responsibility for me?

33) In what ways am I allowing fear of change to hold me back from moving forward in life?

34) In what areas am I spending too much time on things that are not my priorities?

35) In what areas do I need to learn or further develop my skills in order to get ahead in life?

36) What would those close to me say my strengths are?

37) What would those close to me say my weaknesses are?

38) In what ways am I not taking responsibility for the part I’m playing in a relationship problem?

39) How does my work reflect my interests, passions, skills?

40) Where am I prioritising money/material possessions over my relationships and values?

41) What am I allowing to distract me from living life to the full?

42) What is my vision for the next five years?

43) How am I helping other people to become better versions of themselves?

44) If I were to die tomorrow, what would I regret not having done?

45) In what ways am I living a life someone else has defined for me?

46) What is my intuition telling me that I might have been ignoring?

47) What really pushes my buttons that really isn’t worth being negatively affected by?

48) What drains my energy and in what ways can I change it?

49) In what ways am I being unwise or irresponsible financially?

50) In what areas am I so desperately longing for an outcome that it’s preventing me from enjoying the journey?

?? It’s not an easy process… as I mentioned previously. Responsibility brings empowerment and self-control is the ultimate expression of maturity in life.

?What do you think about all those 50 questions? Did you manage to answer them all? Let me know your feedback. If you need more details about limiting beliefs concept, send me a message in private and I will do my best to guide you step by step to gain more awareness about this topic. ?? ??

Hope you find this article interesting and meaningful for you! ?? Thank you!

?? In the next article, I will approach another insightful subject and very significant for myself: OUR CORE VALUES. I will provoke you with this concept and also, as an example and confession, I will be listing my own core values, as being the foundation in life and guiding me on my own journey. Hear you ??!

PS: BECOME BETTER!

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Source of info: achology.com (the Academy for Modern Applied Psychology)