Self Critical

Few days back I got chance to hear the genuine feedback of mine from most valuable person of my life.., after few days contemplating those I am ready to talk about them. But then I thought these could be the same facts which reflected by others too or at least few of my same kind. So following are the facts and my honest interpretation of them.

1. Over expressiveness & too detailed: Today’s life is like instance coffee nobody has time to listen your genuine knowledge on every circumstances. Not every time there will be people around who can respect your depth of knowledge or people who respect that knowledge will not be in position to listen your detailed interpretation each time. People want short answer even though it is not dire necessary that it should always make sense, but shortness make sure that next person/people are not bored as they may just want quick opinion. Leave the details for second question if they comeback otherwise don’t waist energy. Another point is don’t use much face/hands expressions or ‘moment of pause’ as people might consider you fake or simply they become impatient, though you are doing so to make it clear and precise.
   
   
   I acknowledge this, agree that sometime using nice face/hands expression are important like in teaching but not everywhere, so will do what require but will resist myself from making my responses too long/detailed with undesired expressions.
   
   
2. Presence of Mind: Like me few people are geek (not necessary in IT) and when doing their job they are 100% dedicated and put full presence of mind in same. I don’t know about others but beyond working hours I put my brain in power saving mode and not in position of having 100% presence of mind in all personal/family/friends circumstances. This aspect may offend people and people may make opinion about you that you don’t put brain in simple situations. Also don’t take people and routine circumstances for granted.
   
   
   
   I acknowledge this, will try to improve this but can’t guarantee the same presence of mind which I can give to professional career, end of the day I am Geek but not nerd.
   
   
   
   
   
3. Influenced: Don’t get easily influenced by circumstances and especially people. When you are in social life you tend to listen others and get to hear their personal / professional issues and based on their experience they will tell their conclusion or lesson learned from those issues. Though how much convincing they are it’s not necessary that those conclusion or lessons are correct and you need to imbibe the same. It happened often that based on others opinion I make it as my own opinion without cross checking the facts as end of the day it is one person account and that doesn't matter how much important that person is in your life. So don’t get carried away.
   
   
   
   I acknowledge this, but very difficult to judge each time, will keep mind open before swaying away.
   
   
   
   
4. Person of contradictions: When you tell people that you have some principles and believes then at least friends and off-course your enemies remember those. Never deviate from those if you do then you should have clear reason for doing so and made sure that you make them clear to those people who notices that deviation. Enemies will not be interested in those reasons but friends are. Otherwise you become the person of contradictions and unreliable.
   
   
   
   I acknowledge this but that happened exceptionally in few cases where it was done, was for some good, but then failed to explain the reasons. So will make sure that it never repeats itself.
   
   
   
   

This article is about exposing few negative traits of people and making aware. Let me know in comments, if anyone agrees or felt that above things happened with them and how you did correct them if applicable. Well these falls in my new year list of improvements.