Self-confidence is the key to success in life

For becoming a self-confident person try to do hard things. Like waking up at 5 am is hard. Running first thing in the morning is hard. Working on your business alone on a Saturday night is hard. Quitting your job to pursue what makes you happier is hard. Moving to a new place to find better friends is hard. Deciding what you want to do with your life is hard. Doing hard things breeds confidence. If you do these things, you will begin to develop self-esteem. But what is self-esteem? Esteem is respect and admiration. Self-esteem is respect and admiration for yourself. That’s right, it means you think you’re awesome.

And not in some arrogant way. We all know people like that and they are no fun. Most often, behind the facade and underneath the layers, they are simply seeking approval. We all are. Start by getting your own approval. Read book 1 hour every day. Early wakeup like 5.30 A.M to 6.00 A.M. Try to 30 minute Book, Newspaper,10–15 Minutes Excise early morning. Never watch porn video. Avoid Social media and watching funny video. Start a learning motivate movie or biography movie. Run 15 minutes Daily or everyday excise 20 minutes.

Write about who I am? When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, it’s game over for everyone else. See the mirror and say "I am good". I can do it! My day is good. Write down your plan for today. Put that piece of paper in your pocket or on the wall in front of your eyes. The most successful men work smart, not hard. Beautiful pictures comes to mind when eyes are closed. Drinking ,ore water and avoid sugar and Oily foods. Before sleep read book 30–45 minute.read the book motivational, biography, business related.

Be a risk-taker, rather than being someone who takes a safe road. When you face your fears and try difficult things, you'll gain confidence in yourself. Don’t let yourself become bored. Be excited about life! Surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you. Develop positive pictures of yourself in your head. The key to self-esteem is to appreciate what you are and not focus on what everyone else thinks about you. Go on a No external validation diet. The more validation you seek from the people outside of you, the lesser internal security you are going to have. Stop posting your selfies so that you can get the dopamine rush of people messaging how cute you look and learn to validate yourself. Be very conscious and intentional about the reasons for the activities that you engage in.

Embrace active solitude. Just because you are in your house doesn't mean that you are spending time with yourself. If you are constantly distracted by your phone, TV, work etc, you are not actively spending time in self-reflection and mindfulness. Sit with your uncomfortable emotions. Daily take out 10- 15 mins where you witness the sensations in your body and acknowledge your feelings. Face yourself.

Take your self-care routine up a notch. By self-care, I don't mean bubble baths and massages. I mean, journal to become aware of your wounds and traumas. Dig deep into your past, construct empowering narratives around life-changing events, and integrate the lessons into your personality. Don't let your past hold you hostage. Question your limiting beliefs and adopt a growth mindset - “ I can achieve anything I set my mind to.” Positive affirmations mean nothing if you are unwilling to put in the work.

Do hard things daily. Take on a challenge. Set some aims for yourself. Human beings are built for struggle. A challenge fortified you. Stop chasing impulsive pleasure and start doing things that make you proud of yourself. Those things usually aren't about following your bliss, they are about having a code of conduct for yourself and keeping promises to yourself. Self-discipline is the initiator of self-love.

Learn to say ‘No'. Set boundaries with yourself and other people. Speak the truth. Stand up for yourself. Practice assertiveness and learn to negotiate on your behalf. Know that you are worthy of your needs being met. Treat yourself like someone you genuinely care about( do not confuse this with arrogance and being entitled).

Extend a lot of compassion, kindness, and unconditional love towards yourself. Be gentle with yourself. It doesn't mean letting yourself off the hook but it does mean not beating yourself up to the point that you keep dwelling in unhealthy shame. Practice inner-child and forgiveness meditations. Forgive yourself. Don't shame your younger versions. Learn from them and be grateful to them.

Don't internal use rejections. Rejections, more often than not, are about preference/compatibility mismatch rather than an indication of your unworthiness. There are always things that you can do to increase your value and become more attractive. However, if you start doing things solely to earn the approval of other people and twist yourself into a pretzel to please others, you are dishonouring yourself and not embracing your authenticity.

Invest in yourself. Knowledge + skills = Power. If you're getting better every day no one will be able to touch you. That's how you beat'em. Rise so high they can't reach you with their crap anymore. Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you. Psychology says, when you start taking care of yourself, you start feeling better, you start looking better & you even start to attract better. It all starts with yourself. Why is self-esteem so important? Because your self-esteem is inversely proportional to your tolerance for crappy behaviours in life.

People tolerate all sorts of dysfunction and unhealthy behaviours in life not out of love, generosity, kindness, or empathy, but because of their poor self-image and subconscious hatred towards themselves. High self-esteem ensures that you only invite relationships in life that meets your standards and help you grow. It ensures that you don't settle for relationships that are harmful to your mind, body and soul. Kindly consider it seriously. Cheers!