Self-coaching. Understanding our shadow ego-self and where it comes from.
Self-coaching. Understaiding our shadow ego-self and where it comes from. Dr. Brenda Hattingh

Self-coaching. Understanding our shadow ego-self and where it comes from.

The shadow ego-self

Understanding the shadow ego-self is essential for personal growth and self-coaching. The shadow ego-self can be described as the part of ourselves that we tend to hide, deny, or are totally unaware of. It consists of the darker aspects of our personality, such as insecurities, fears, and negative beliefs. These unconscious elements often influence our behavior, relationships, work, and decision-making without us even realizing it. By bringing these hidden aspects into awareness, we can begin to address and integrate them, leading to a more authentic and empowered sense of self.


The origins of the shadow ego-self

The origins of the shadow ego-self can be traced back to our childhood and early life experiences. It is often shaped by past traumas, societal expectations, family dynamics, and cultural influences. For example, if we grew up in an environment where expressing emotions was discouraged, we may have developed a shadow ego-self that suppresses feelings and struggles with vulnerability. Recognizing these early influences can help us understand why certain patterns or beliefs continue to hold power over us in our adult lives.


Purpose of the shadow ego-self

The purpose of the shadow ego-self is not to hinder or sabotage us but to protect us from perceived threats and vulnerabilities. It operates from a place of survival and self-preservation, aiming to shield us from pain, rejection, or failure.

However, these protective mechanisms can and do become outdated or counterproductive, leading to self-sabotage and limiting beliefs. By acknowledging the underlying intentions of the shadow ego-self, we can begin to work with it compassionately and transform it into a supportive ally on our journey toward personal growth and success.

However, we need to look further back and ask the question: Why is there a shadow ego-self in the first place?


Two sides of self

We all have two sides to ourselves. On the one side, we have an original, authentic self that holds the codes and keys to becoming a fully functional person and leading a life of health, wealth, happiness, success, and prosperity that benefits everyone, including nature. All are encoded as our original DNA Success blueprint.

Unfortunately, we became disconnected. We lost all our power and potential and created our own image of self, a fake self, a delusional self, a shadow of what we ought to be – the shadow ego self. ?


Egos are running the world.

Today, the world is mostly run by disconnected shadow ego-dwellers in leadership positions leading the mindless masses. The result is confusion, chaos, discord, suffering, poverty, conflict, pollution, war, and struggle.

It is time to stop this downward spiral and turn the process around. The way to do this is to understand the shadow ego-self, heal the disconnection, and recover the original DNA success blueprint once again. Each person needs to start with themselves.

The questions are: Who is the shadow ego-self? Where does it come from? How do we restore the original authentic DNA success blueprint?

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Learning from the master artist

We find answers to these questions in the fresco of the Cistine Chapel by master artist, Michaelangelo

Cistene Chapel Fresco by Michaelangelo (Pinterest)

  • The original purpose

In the painting, Michelangelo depicts the beginning and end of all human problems, suffering, illness, poverty, struggle, and stress. On the left side, the Creator is depicted as a young man leisurely relaxing on a planet. Here, we find peace, harmony, and a carefree existence without worry, stress, or struggle. He is tranquil, without any pressure, rush, lack, sickness, or aging. Restricting forces are absent – including clothing. It is a life of total freedom, well-being, connection, love, peace, harmony, and compassion.

He is also reaching out to others who are caught up in their circumstances, showing them the path back home. Here, we find the first authentic leader in action.

  • Cramped in a mindset

On the other hand, humanity is depicted as people cramped within what seems to be a skull. They are disconnected from the Creator, from the Source of life. The result is fear, anguish, pain, despair, and struggle. Agony is evident in the cramped space where people are struggling to survive or escape their circumstances. They even turn on each other.

  • Mindless masses

In this dark space, people look lost, sick, aging, and desperate for a solution to their dark, frustrating, meaningless, impoverished, and confusing circumstances. They struggle with each other, looking for solutions. This is the current situation of most of humanity – of the mindless masses. Very few make it out.

However, one person starts to make a move outside the mindset of the struggling masses.

  • Only one person

The one positive aspect is a bearded old man (depicting age/wisdom) searching for a solution. He leaves the struggling masses behind and reaches outside the skull, outside the circumstances, outside the mindset and situation people find themselves in. All his efforts are focused on getting to the root of the real problem. His aim, focus, and commitment are to solve the real source of all dilemmas. He wants to restore the connection. It takes only one person to break the spell.

Self-coaching. Restoring the connection (Photo. Cistene Chapel Fresco Michealangelo. Pinterest

  • Getting reconnected

He reaches outside the mindset and begins to reconnect with the Source, the Creator, and the quality of life it brings. He’s not struggling with the circumstances and people within the old mindset (skull). He knows something we don’t. So do all those who are now awakening to the truth and who are invested in a quality future.

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The shadow ego-self as part of being human

We all have a shadow ego-self. This is what makes us human. It is also what causes all the problems, struggles, and suffering. By getting to know your shadow ego-self and where it comes from, you can take ownership of it and coach it back to health, wealth, happiness, and success.

Self-coaching is not only a path of self-discovery but also a path of healing while discovering new potential. This is the aim and purpose of self-coaching.

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The disconnection of the shadow ego-self

Humans are all born with an original DNA success blueprint on one side, but because we are human, we are disconnected on the other side. Scientists refer to this as Junk DNA.

Self-coaching. Restoring the disconnection on a DNA level.

Imitation self

Out of the disconnection, we created an imitation of ourselves, a delusional self. This self was formed by the programs and information from our parents, significant others, families, education system, communities, cultures, religions, political parties, and even the era we were born into. We also identify with people and even do the opposite of people with whom we do not identify.

As children, we don't have an option and follow blindly. As conscious, mindful, mature adults, we have a choice.

The shadow ego-self and the mindless masses.

The shadow ego self is born out of fear, anger, resentment, hate, and discord. The mindset, emotional programming, and value systems are handed down from generation to generation. Negativity and struggle then continue. This is how the mindless masses continue repeating their struggle and suffering over and over while they are oblivious to all the power and potential just waiting to be discovered.

However, as times change, you need to leave this mindset behind and start thinking for yourself. You have to awaken to the truth of who you truly are and what your purpose is. ?This is the radical change, a power shift as a shift in consciousness, as the 'awakening' that is currently taking place.


?The the shadow ego-self and survival

The main purpose of the shadow ego-self is survival. Power games, intimidation, manipulation, domination, and control have become acceptable ways of life. Today, these strategies are part of families, businesses, religion, leadership, politics, communities, and even humanity as a whole. The main aim is control and power over others, while others give their power away and become subservient.

?Unfortunately, anxiety, fear, hate, resentment, and discord remain, meaning there will never be enough—and so it continues. This is where the future is heading unless we can stop the downward spiral and turn it around. The question is, how?

The answer to the question of how lies in redefining success. However, the concept of success has different, totally opposing meanings for the authentic self and the shadow ego-self.

The true meaning of success is to become fully functional as your unique authentic self.

The true meaning of success. ?

The shadow ego self sees success as acquiring power, positions, and flashy possessions. Money, fancy cars, clothes, houses, gadgets, technology, power positions, job titles, social circles, and media visibility are just some of the shadow ego-ego self's ‘success symbols.’ This is all part of the tribal-minded system driven by anxiety, fear, pretense, and delusion.

This is the world of disconnection, half-truths, untruths, lies, pretense, and make-believe. It is also a world of self-denial. Most of society exists here, thinking that if they look OK in the eyes of others, then they must be OK. It is a constant struggle to survive, and the delusion is then carried over to our children. ?


Awakening from the delusion

Hoever, once you have awakened from this delusion, find the authentic self and understand that the true meaning of success means ‘becoming fully functional.’ With this new mindset, you then set out on a journey of discovering 'ultimate success.'


Ultimate success

Ultimate success means that you have healed the shadow ego-self from its delusional values, overcome the erroneous mindset, healed from the pain, fear, and anxiety, and liberated yourself from past programming. You then have the ability to co-create a quality life with the Universe. You can even create miracles. This is freedom in action. ?More about this in the next article…

The question is, where do you currently stand?


Where do you stand?

Is your life currently ruled by the shadow ego-self or the authentic self?

You can find out where you currently stand by doing your Power Intelligence Success Profile (PISP) HERE

The Power Intelligence Success Profile. Shadow ego-self vs authentic self.

With your PISP Report, you will receive a Power Gauge as feedback on where you currently stand.


Get started on the path of self-coaching by following these links

  • Watch the video. Self-coaching. Six reasons why you must learn to coach yourself HERE
  • Watch the video: Self-coaching. Self-assessment and the Power Intelligence Success Profile. HERE
  • Do your Power Intelligence Success Profile (PISP)

  1. Free introduction HERE.
  2. Get Your Complete Power Intelligence Success Profile and PISP Report $ 99. HERE

More topics in the Self-Coaching series

1.????? Free Masterclass. Self-coaching. Six Reasons why you must learn to coach yourself

?YouTube video: Self-coaching. Six reasons why you must learn to coach yourself

?2.????? Self-coaching: Self-assessment and the Power Intelligence Success Profile

?3.????? Self-coaching: What is self-coaching, and why is it vital for our future

4.????? Self-coaching. Who coaches whom??

5. Self-coaching. Understanding the authentic self and its origins

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