Self Coaching Tips - How Can You Coach Yourself

Coaches are the people who partner with you and stand behind you, they cheer you on with solid nudging, strategy and support. They help you understand yourself better, and start building a solid foundation so you can create the life that you truly want.

 Let’s face it: our friends and family might be supportive but they do NOT always offer up the kind of support we really need! When people love you, they might not call you out on your stories when it’s necessary or push you harder to let you fly a little higher. Friends and family are important for all kinds of reasons, but they are not coaches.Coached really assist you take stock in the here and now, and then focus on where to go next.

It’s always good to know you that can reach out to a coach when you need. They are an invaluable resource to draw on, since often we are too emotionally connected or attached to a situation to look at it objectively, mindfully and with a greater awareness. So seeking assistance from a coach helps as he or she is also able to listen to what you are not saying...read between the lines...help you see the intent behind the action...

 There are different types of coaches out there and they’re all here to help you do something very specific. Lose the last 3 kgs of ill health ; Improve your relationship ; Build a successful business etc. So no matter what issues and challenges you are currently facing in your life, there’s a wonderful coach out there who’ll be just right to partner with you!

While nothing can replace the care and attention of a high-quality coach, it is entirely possible to coach yourself to help you get real with yourself! Successfully coaching yourself is actually pretty straightforward! There are just two questions and one instruction that you can follow.

 Q1.WHERE DO YOU WANT TO BE?

Coaching is always future-focused. It’s about consciously creating your reality! So you have to know where you want to go before you can begin the process of getting there. And be specific. Exact to the smallest details. 

 Break it up to clear descriptions of:

 ? What exactly are you dreaming of?

? What kind of life do you want to be living?

? What kind of person do you want to be?

 So broad things like “happiness”, “abundance” or “love” are often not good! Please be really clear about what those words mean to you first. It’s always important to have a destination in mind for where you want to go in life! Because without it, you’re likely to end up living someone else’s dream instead of your own.

 Q2. WHY AREN'T YOU THERE YET? 

So let’s get brutally real! Grab a piece of paper and write all those excuses and reasons down. This is the AWESOME part of the process! The stories that you are telling yourself will reveal your blocks and limiting beliefs regarding your life.

And these could look like:

? People just don’t like me

? It’s hard to make money

? No one’s given me a break

? There aren’t any good women out there

? All the guys I meet are jerks

? No one wants to pay me my worth

 Let’s get REAL about what those beliefs are actually doing to you! It’s not the world around you that’s against you! Your beliefs and excuses actually the only thing keeping you small.

 Writing things down gives you some perspective. Once you see things for what they really are, they’re not so scary anymore! After the excuses and stories are moved away the next course of action will become clear.

  3. NO “I DON’T KNOWS”

When you begin to look for the next step, it’s all too easy to stop just short of the answer.

That’s exactly why final instruction is this: I don’t know is not an answer.

Because you always know! Saying you don’t is just a clever way our brains have come up with to avoid responsibility. It’s buffering. It’s laziness. It’s hiding and staying small.

By avoiding “I don’t know” you’re forced into doing the work and taking ownership of the situation. So keep pushing yourself until you find your next step. But be realistic: one step forward likely won’t solve everything but it will put you on the right track! Then just keep going. Find the next step, then the step after that. You don’t have to figure everything out at once! In fact, trying to do that will only overwhelm you and you won’t take any action at all

So start on this journey of self-discovery and empower yourself!