Self and Co -regulation

Good morning beautiful friends. It's a beautiful morning. I'm down at Lister field Lake. I'll go this way. And just a perfect day, really. It doesn't get much better than this. It's clear. Blue sky, still. Birds are chirping. We're coming into spring, even though we're technically still in winter. I just had a fabulous ride for an hour or so.

And, uh, This morning lives become a bit of a thing and I'm always thinking about what I'm going to share about and I'm thinking today, there's two aspects of emotional healing. One aspect is healing the emotional trauma, the energy that we carry from unresolved past experiences. And those energies, those emotions drive us in our life.

The sadness creates heaviness and glumness, and the fear creates anxiety, and the anger creates frustration and disappointment and self sabotage. And all those emotions, they drive us in our life. Because we live in a culture that teaches us to repress what we feel, we end up with a whole bag full of emotional energy stored in our body that runs us from the backseat, creating restlessness, scattered thinking, uh, excessive doing, excessive busyness, excessive thinking, and so on.

And then we get into addictions as well. So, The beautiful thing about breath work is it helps us to come into our body. It activates that past emotional residue that we're carrying so that we can clear it. And we know that the healing is in the feeling. And I've been specializing in emotional healing for 32 years now.

And what I've discovered is that's the first part. of emotional healing. That's what we do mostly in sessions. And then the second part really of healing emotions is learning to self regulate, of learning how to bring ourself into a place of relaxation, calmness, balance, presence, open heartedness, so that we can meet each moment as it is and be at our best.

And the practices for Self regulation are different from the ones that we do for emotional healing. And in our trainings, we teach a number of one minute breathing practices that can reduce stress and anxiety by 50 percent in 60 seconds. So, pretty amazing, powerful, uh, effect that modulating our breath can have.

And I think that since I'm a breathwork master, it makes sense on these lives, maybe to do some breathwork and we could do some self regulating breathing, uh, which would be great. So I wanted to share a simple practice with you that is the breathwork. Very easy to implement and very, um, profound in the effects that it has and it's basically a 4 4 breathing pattern where you breathe in and as you're breathing in from your belly up to your chest, you count up to four or maybe five if you've got big lungs or something high CO2 tolerance and then on the exhale you breathe out to four as well or five.

Whatever you're breathing into, you breathe out to the same. Sometimes people breathe three, three, and that's okay. Generally as you go along in this you'll find that your breath slows down. because we become more settled, less in sympathetic nervous system activation, more in parasympathetic nervous system, which is the relax and digest state.

And this is a great practice that you can do if you're not sleeping at night in bed, you want to get into a good space, if you're feeling angry or frustrated or anxious. You can just switch this on in a very easy way. It's portable, wherever you go, you can turn it on. It's freely available. Costs nothing.

And, uh, just a gift, really, that we can shift our emotional state by consciously choosing to change how we're breathing. It's one of the miracles in life, really. So let's just, uh, do, uh, a few, uh, breaths, four, four breaths. And then you can see if you want to just continue that on after this, stop the scrolling or maybe you remember it when in time when you get stressed.

So, uh, let me get a nice background. That looks pretty good. Uh, so yeah, so bring your attention to your breath. If you want to close your eyes, that makes it a little bit easier because you're less distracted and bring yourself into the present moment.

Just give yourself permission to be here as you are. Move your attention to your breath now. Feel the air coming in your nostrils, down to your belly and up to your chest, expanding.

And then letting go. So we draw the breath in on the inhale, consciously relaxed, but deep and conscious. And then we let go on the exhale, the exhale surrender, softening, opening, allowing. So we just draw the breath in two, three, four, breathing out three, two, one in two, three, four, Four. Breathing out. Three.

Two. One. In. Two. Three. Four. Out. Three. Two. One. And you can continue that on for as long as you like. You don't have to tell anyone you're doing it. It's just a beautiful centering and regulating breath pattern. So I have a fabulous day, uh, we've, we're, uh, rocking along in our community. We've got 35 people or so in our Core Clearing Breathwork Coach Training.

If you're interested in becoming a Core Clearing Breathwork Coach, love to meet you and have a chat. You can download the prospectus with all the details on it. Our next intake is the 5th of September with um, a special webinar, free webinar and orientation session for module one, which is on self regulation and co regulation.

So we'll be exploring in more detail what I've just shared. And love to have you there. So thanks for the love and you have a fabulous day and let me know any feedback that you have after practicing that 4 4 breath and I'll look forward to catching up soon. Take care.