Self and Co-Regulation

When a horse gets a fright in the wild and become edgy and stressed (dysregulated) in fight or flight activation, it’s not left alone. The herd plays the role of helping to bring the distressed horse back into a state of harmony and balance. The herd Co-Regulates the distressed horse by helping to bring it back into a state of calm and ease.

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We can Co-Regulate for each other. When a person becomes distressed the family, therapist or community can play a role in helping the person to come back into harmony and balance.

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To Co-Regulate others you must be able to self-Regulate first. Before you can Co-Regulate others you need to be able to calm yourself. And be able to maintain a relaxed, open state in the presence of others, especially when they are distressed, agitated or angry.?

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Self-Regulate is our ability to calm and manage your own emotions. Co-Regulate is the ability to be present in loving, healing and empowering ways with others.

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Learning to Co-Regulate?empowers you to?effectively?‘hold a loving space’ for others during Breathwork sessions (and also with your family and friends).?

1.?Self Regulate - Bring yourself to Calm, Connected and Present

Self-regulation is the ability to calm, focus and control one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in order to achieve long-term goals. There are several benefits to self-regulation, including:

1.?????Improved emotional well-being: Self-regulation helps individuals to better manage their emotions, which can lead to reduced stress and anxiety levels. 2.?????Better decision-making: By regulating impulses and emotions, individuals are better able to think through decisions and make choices that align with their long-term goals. 3.?????Improved relationships: Self-regulation can lead to better communication and empathy in relationships, as individuals are better able to manage their own emotions and respond appropriately to the emotions of others. 4.?????Improved physical health: Stress and negative emotions can have a negative impact on physical health. By regulating emotions and managing stress levels, individuals may experience improved physical health. 5.?????Increased productivity: By staying focused on long-term goals and avoiding distractions, individuals may be able to increase their productivity and achieve more in their personal and professional lives.

?Self-Regulation is about switching from Sympathetic to Parasympathetic Nervous System. Sympathetic Nervous System is the fight or flight response. The Parasympathetic Nervous System is the rest and digest response. We do this by activating the Vagal Nervous system. Developing Vagal Tone. The capacity to flow with the ups and downs of life and stay in harmony and balance within. Also known as Heart Coherence.?The first step in Self-Regulation is to raise self-awareness. We do this by becoming more present and connected to yourself. The more present and connected you are, the more in touch with yourself, others and life you will be.?Self-Regulation?is supported?through the use of a Heart Centred Breathwork style.?This style evolved during my 30 years’ of Breathwork workshops and facilitating over 10,000 sessions. Heart Centred Breathwork utilises a deep, gentle rhythmical and flowing breathing pattern.?Heart Centred Breathwork?is based?on presence, trust and surrendering to the goodness in the natural intelligence of life. This allows our clients to experience profound transformations?quickly?and?gently. And gain access to their intuitive guidance to move forward in life.??Self-Regulation?is induced?with Heart centred Breathwork and by developing your Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is…

• Gaining an understanding of the good purpose of your emotions.?
• Learning how to release unresolved past emotions.?
• Harness their wisdom and energy to empower you to live your life more?effectively.

?First you must be self-aware, present and connected to your heart intelligence. Then you are able to be present with others in loving, healing and empowering ways to Co-Regulate…

2.?Co Regulate – Be present in loving ways?

Co-regulation is a process where two or more individuals work together to calm, focus and consciously direct their emotions and behaviors. Here are some potential benefits of co-regulation:

1. Increased emotional awareness: Co-regulation helps individuals to become more aware of their own and others' emotions, which can improve their ability to communicate effectively and empathize with others.
2. Enhanced problem-solving skills: Co-regulation involves collaboration and cooperation, which can lead to more effective problem-solving and decision-making.
3. Improved relationships: Co-regulation can help build positive relationships by creating a sense of trust and safety between individuals.
4. Reduced stress and anxiety: When individuals co-regulate, they can help each other to manage stress and anxiety, which can improve their overall mental health and well-being.
5. Better physical health: Co-regulation can lead to better physical health outcomes, as individuals may be more motivated to engage in healthy behaviors when they feel supported by others.

Overall, co-regulation can be a powerful tool for improving emotional and behavioral regulation, building positive relationships, and promoting overall well-being.

?We raise Self-Awareness, Presence and Heart Intelligence in ourselves first. Then we can extend our practice to being a calming, healing and empowering influence on others. Co-Regulation?is facilitated?by creating safe, non-judgmental, open and welcoming relationships.

?I hope you've enjoyed this article.

Would you like to know more about how to be a loving, healing presence?for yourself and others?

I'm presenting a workshop on Self Regulation and Co-Regulation.

Thursday 19th October 2023 7:30pm DST (Melbourne Daylight Savings Time)

I'd like to invite you to join me - it's?free and online.

Click here to register:?https://eepurl.com/drBLF5

For Mums, Dads, Healers, Coaches and Health Professionals

I will be sharing?on how to effectively self-regulate and co-regulate for others.By learning to self-regulate and co-regulate, we can hold a loving space for others to heal and grow during Breathwork sessions and in our personal lives.

Join me: Thursday 19th October at 7:30pmIt's online and free!Don't miss this opportunity to learn and connect with like-minded individuals.Register now to secure your spot!Click here:?https://eepurl.com/drBLF5