Self-care isn't Selfish
Lorraine Eivers FCIPD
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Issue #25: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish – World Mental Health Day Special
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Self-Care Isn’t Selfish – It’s Essential
As HR leaders and professionals, we’re often the ones ensuring everyone else’s well-being. But who looks after us? Today, in recognition of World Mental Health Day, I want to talk about why self-care isn’t selfish. Whether you’re leading teams, navigating a toxic work environment, or job searching, self-care is the foundation that allows you to perform at your best.
But it’s not easy. Both HR leaders and job seekers face unique challenges that can feel overwhelming. From dealing with demanding workloads, managing difficult employee relations, to the frustration of rejection or uncertainty in your career search. I know it can be tough out there.
Yet, without making time for ourselves, we risk burnout, stress, and even mental health challenges. I’ve been there in my career - long commutes, sleepless nights, and feeling like I had to keep everyone happy. ?It ended up with me going through burnout during my time as an HR Director. I was so focused on supporting others that I lost who I was and neglected my own well-being, and it took a toll on my health.
But here’s what I’ve learned: You can’t pour from an empty cup. So, here are my thoughts on why prioritising self-care is essential along with some practical tips to help you do it.
Why You Need Self-Care in Your Work and while Job Searching
Whether you're in a job or on the hunt for one, self-care is more than just taking a break; it’s a form of self-respect. The pressure to be perfect, juggle responsibilities, and perform constantly can take a toll. By prioritising self-care, you’re not only improving your mental health but also enhancing your productivity, resilience, and ability to make better decisions.
For HR Leaders: The burden of supporting others can leave you drained. Remember, leadership isn’t about sacrificing your well-being. Setting boundaries helps you become a more effective, empathetic leader. Delegate when you can and ensure your team knows their well-being is just as important. Remember, modelling self-care sets a positive example for your team.
For Job Seekers: Rejections, uncertainty, and constant self-assessment can chip away at your confidence. But self-care allows you to recharge, stay resilient, and maintain a positive mindset through the ups and downs. Schedule in breaks as part of your job search strategy. Spending time with loved ones, participating in a hobby, or even a short walk can help reset your mindset.
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5 Ways to Prioritise Self-Care Today
?? Acknowledge Your Limits: It's okay to not have all the answers or to feel exhausted. Recognising this is the first step toward building healthier habits.
?? Set Boundaries: Whether it’s declining yet another meeting or stepping away from endless job applications, protect your time and your energy.
?? Break Tasks into Manageable Steps: Both in work and while job searching, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by long to-do lists. Break it down, and tackle one thing at a time.
?? Take Technology Breaks: The constant ping of notifications can worsen stress. Sitting in front of a screen for hours is draining. Make sure to schedule time to disconnect from tech and reconnect with yourself. I think you know by now, my go to is a walk on the beach to decompress.
?? Celebrate Small Wins: Whether you’ve completed a project or sent off a job application, celebrate progress—no matter how small.
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This World Mental Health Day, make a commitment to prioritise yourself. Whether you’re navigating a high-pressure HR role or searching for the next opportunity, taking care of your mental well-being isn’t a luxury; it’s essential.
If you’re struggling with balancing self-care and career demands, I’m here to help. Reach out to book a no-obligation 30-minute call, and let’s explore how you can gain more clarity, confidence, and control in your career.
Thank you for being a valued subscriber. Wishing you a week filled with self-care and well-being. ??
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Principal Engineer at Wood
4 个月Oh, and by the way, technology breaks ... there is an expectation these days that we are all instantaneously available. Not just to work peeps, but family and friends too. Don't be. On your computer, close Outlook. Check your emails every few hours only. If it's urgent, they'll phone you. Trust me, you'll be more efficient, get more done. Oh and phones ... turn the volume down to zero. If a call mattered, they'll leave a voicemail. Even for texts, and FB messages, just check your phone when you have a bathroom break instead of reacting like Pavlov's dog every time the damn thing dings. It'll keep. Put your phone on recurring 'do not disturb' during family dinnertime and from 9pm till the following morning. Don't be a slave to technology. The world WILL keep turning. Even when you die ...
Principal Engineer at Wood
4 个月This is very broadly applicable. Much like the advice when a plane depressurises and the masks drop, put your own on before trying to help anyone else because you're no use to anyone unconscious! Similarly, it doesn't matter whether you're a manager, leader or foot-soldier, or even in a family environment where you are a parent, carer or even just significant other. If other people depend on you - and that's pretty much all of us - it isn't heroic to ignore your own self care, it's just dumb and irresponsible. Your first duty of care is to yourself, in order that you remain able to provide support to those who depend upon what you do.