SEEKING VALIDATION - A MYTH!

In our journey through life, the allure of seeking validation often presents itself as a tempting path to follow. Whether it’s from peers, mentors, or society at large, the need for external approval can feel like a driving force shaping our decisions and self-worth. However, as I delve deeper into both ancient wisdom and modern psychology, I've come to realize that this pursuit can be a slow poison, subtly undermining our true potential.

Embracing Ancient Wisdom

Ancient Indian scriptures, such as the Bhagavad Gita, teach us profound lessons about the nature of validation. Krishna's teachings to Arjuna emphasize the importance of inner strength and clarity of purpose. The concept of "sthitaprajna" (steadfast wisdom) reminds us that true fulfillment comes from within, not from external accolades or validation.

What does Modern Psychology have to say?

Modern psychology, particularly Martin Seligman's positive psychology, offers a complementary perspective. Seligman's research highlights our inherent bias towards negativity, where we often fixate on criticisms and setbacks rather than celebrating achievements. This tendency, rooted in our evolutionary past, underscores the challenge of overcoming the allure of seeking constant validation. Another concept I would like to refer is of 'Imposter Syndrome' - Where, people with imposter syndrome often attribute their achievements to luck, or external factors, or deceive themselves into believing they have somehow tricked others into thinking they are more capable than they are.

The Personal Journey: My Failures, Embarrassments, Fear...

Early in my career, I vividly remember a time when I sought validation as an amateur, too immature to realise its pitfalls. I was driven by external praise and recognition, measuring my worth through others' opinions rather than my own intrinsic motivations. This approach led to moments of fleeting satisfaction but left me feeling hollow and disconnected from my true passions.

Through introspection and experience, I gradually shifted my focus towards intrinsic motivations, not completely yet. I started aligning my actions with my core values and personal goals rather than seeking validation from external sources. This shift wasn't easy; it required confronting my insecurities and redefining success on my terms.

In doing so, I discovered a profound sense of authenticity and fulfilment. Each milestone achieved through intrinsic motivation—whether overcoming challenges or pursuing meaningful passion—brought a deeper sense of satisfaction and personal growth than any external accolade could provide.

Lastly, as we navigate the complexities of professional and personal life, let us remember that seeking validation is not inherently wrong, but its overemphasis can obscure our true potential. By drawing wisdom from ancient teachings and integrating insights from modern psychology, we can forge a path that honors our authenticity and empowers us to thrive on our terms.

Do you think my perception resonates? If you like to share your experience or thoughts, what would it be?