The Security Guard!
Ankit Jhamb
Therapist | Author | Chief Learning Officer - Grant Thornton Bharat LLP | 2 TEDx Speaker | Sukoon-Da-Pyo | India Book of Records - 10 Books in 3 Years | Top 20 HR Influencer 24 - Economic Times
The security guard!
?The security guard is not doing the job right, not at all. It allows a few to enter while disallows and debars a few. Why the discrimination? I don’t think there is a logic to his decision. Sometimes it seems it’s only basis his convenience, whatever he feels the house can handle gets the green signal and whatever he feels would crumble the house gets thrown out.
?Unbeknown to him, nothing gets thrown out. The unwanted visitors find their way one way or the other. He needs to understand that it’s not that simple. Just by closing the gates, the visitors don’t go away. They sneak into the house, jump the wall, make an underground tunnel, or worse they sometimes attack the entire house.
?The security guard needs a new skill set, he needs proper unlearning and relearning. It’s not fair, not fair for the house. Too many visitors who were disallowed have been seeking an opportunity to harm the house.
?He might have been doing this job since the beginning of time and he might have learned to help the house to survive, and cope with external dangers but now times are different, visitors are different and each of them needs to be dealt with respect, honor, mindfulness with harmony if not complete alacrity.
?If you ask me, we do not have a choice. None. The security guard is about to get butchered, thrown out, or hijacked. The visitors are ganging up, they are making a complex destructive, negatively charged, and toxic army. They will soon kill the security guard forever, bomb, and take the roof down.
?Is that what we want?
?I am not going to wait for the answer because I have some important and urgent questions to ask.
?And here you go…
?Why is it that we allow ourselves to feel certain emotions but disallow disapprove of ourselves the right to feel a few others?
?Why does the security guard in your head allow happiness but disapprove of sadness? It gives a green signal for the body to feel a sense of accomplishment but blocks out all visitors which looks like a sense of loss?
?Have you ever wondered, or pondered that unconsciously you are allowing yourself to feel some emotions while neglecting, sidelining, ignoring, or blocking a few.
?Have you ever asked yourself “what am I not ready to feel? What am I not wanting to feel? What am I not willing to feel?
?Remember we do not have a choice. You do not have a choice. If you do not allow and respect all emotions equally you will have to then pay the cost of an internal mutiny.
?It is the birthright of the emotion, the feeling to be felt by the body. They do not want to be suppressed, repressed, and dejected.
?Honor each emotion, each feeling without your value judgments.
?Go feel, what you don’t can’t, won’t, and couldn’t!
?Because the fool asked the wise man “is it possible to feel everything?
The wise man replied, “don’t know, but it’s possible to be ready to feel everything!”