SECRETS For The Best LEVERAGE in Your NEGOTIATIONS

Most people never get training in negotiation, yet it is one of the most essential skills in business and in life. We are constantly negotiating – to get bigger, better deals in our favor. In?How I Do Business,?I took the years of studying and having direct experience in negotiation and translated it into some base components, breaking down what it takes to become a great negotiator and the pitfalls to avoid. *Even accomplished negotiators can pick up some tips to augment their skills and learn more techniques to?take their business to the next level.?

THE PURPOSE OF A NEGOTIATION

Simply, the purpose of a negotiation is to maximize the meeting of your interests. You don’t go into a negotiation to get the least amount that you can, do you? No, you want to get the most amount that you can.

But here is the paradox: In order to get the most that you can, you must also meet the other person’s interests. For me to get all that I want, I have to give you what you want. This is where it gets tricky. There is a way to get what you want, and give the other person what they want with less struggle. This is power negotiation.

COMPONENTS OF EVERY NEGOTIATION

First, it’s important to understand the three components of a negotiation:

1. Desire:?There has to be desire on both parties’ parts to even start negotiating.
2. Agreement: You have to care about the outcome, but you can’t care too much.
3. No fixed rules: There will always be some rules, like if you and I are negotiating for me?????to buy your car, we will probably both have our clothes on. Rules like these are understood. But with regard to the value of the car and how we enter into negotiations? There are no fixed rules.

WHAT HAPPENS IN POWER NEGOTIATION?

Power negotiation works on some basic rules. First, it’s a game of addition,?not?subtraction. Keys to negotiating it’s a game of problem solving,?not?arguing. Lastly, it’s a game of reformulating and seeing another point of view. So why do so many people find negotiation so challenging? One key concept is the difference between position and interest.

THE BASE OF A SUCCESSFUL NEGOTIATION

Think about a frustrating negotiation you’ve had. It’s probably because you were negotiating about your position vs. their position and it got real competitive. Position-based negotiations go like this: I say something, you dig in and defend your position. So I defend my position. Now our egos get involved and we start worrying about who’s right and who’s wrong. We both take up a position and each say what we will or won’t do. Where can you go from there?

Instead of negotiating about your position, you should negotiation from?interest. What’s motivating you??That’s what really matters. Take these two examples:

Example 1:?Let’s say I have been dating a woman for 3 or 4 years and I’m very much in love with her. So, I ask her to marry me. Is that a position or an interest?

Right now, it’s just a position.

But, if then I say, “I want you to marry me to be my life mate, to share my life with, to grow old with.” Or I might say, “I want you to marry me is because I want someone to clean up after me. I want someone to do the dishes. I want someone to be a mother to my children, to cook my meals for me.” Once I say?why?I want her to marry me, she knows my interests and now can make a better decision to get the outcome she desires.

Example 2:?You’re looking?to buy a house, so you call a real estate agent. What would happen if the first thing the agent said was, “Do I have a deal for you! This house just came on the market this morning. It is going to be sold within two days and is such a great deal. We?have?to go look at it?right away!”

That would scare you to death. No real estate agent in their right mind would say that to a client. Or at least, no successful one! Instead, a good agent says something like, “Oh, I’m glad you called. Tell me about what you want. Are you just moving to town? Are you familiar with the city? Are you going to work downtown? Are you going to work in the suburbs? How long of a commute is desirable? Do you have children? What price range? How many bedrooms?”

Here the broker takes your position —?you want to buy a house?— and immediately starts to find out your interests. The more they know about what you want and need, the better equipped they are to meet your expectations. This is why an excellent agent asks for details beyond desired location and your family size to determine what homes to show you. “A large family room” means different things to different people, so the more specific the description the agent gets, the likelier you are to get the home you want.

The next time you go to negotiate, remember it this way:?

Your positions are your behavior.?Your interests are what motivate your behavior.?If you’ve had an unsuccessful negotiation, you were probably focused on positions. But enter into a negotiation and focus on what your interests are and what their interests are, you can design a solution that does not require a lot of struggle. Things will go more smoothly and the chances of everyone getting their interests met go up dramatically, resulting in a successful negotiation.

About the author:?

American entrepreneur, international speaker and acclaimed author, Keith Cunningham is regarded as one of the foremost authorities on business mastery. With more than 40 years of business and investing experience, Keith has taught critical business skills to thousands of top executives and entrepreneurs around the world.

Keith is the author of?Keys to the Vault: Lessons from the Pros on Raising Money and Igniting Your Business. His newest book,?The Ultimate Blueprint for an Insanely Successful Business,?reveals Keith’s core business principles, including why “great operators get tired and how great business owners get rich.”

By special guest author?Keith J. Cunningham

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