The Secret to Being a Power Couple

If I’ve caught your interest with the title of this article, chances are you are in some version of a partnership and you’re either looking for inspiration, or you're curious about where you measure up on the power couple meter stick. I don’t know if such a meter stick exists, (maybe I should make one), and I am certainly not an expert in diagnosing power couples, but I AM really good at being one half of a powerful relationship that has, to this point, forged a life of realized dreams over and over again.

As of this year (2022), we have been married for 23 years and working as business partners for the last 4 years. While being married and working together is in and of itself a real feat, toss in 3 years of pandemic which included lockdowns and homeschooling, and it’s utterly miraculous!

Over the course of our relationship, even more so now that we work together, we have been referred to as a power couple. In the past we didn’t think anything of it beyond the people in our lives noticing the strength of our marriage. Then in 2021 when we co-authored the book Partners in Everything, we were asked about what it meant to be a power couple. At the time, we couldn’t even define it, let alone comment on being one.?

Who would have thought that the act of defining the term “power couple” would end up reinforcing what we instinctively knew all along about our relationship and what the secret to being a power couple actually was.?

So what is the definition of a power couple?

It would be no fun just telling you and it would make for a less than interesting article. Before reading any further, we suggest trying this exercise with your partner.

Define what a power couple means to you, independent of your partner. Then compare your definitions - the results can be quite telling. If you have similar definitions, maybe you’re higher up on the measuring stick than you originally thought. And if you have two very different definitions, a heart-to-heart conversation about your dreams and how you’re working to achieve them might enlighten you and allow your partnership to grow even more.?

This is what Alex and I did and while the answer came relatively quickly to him, it took me a week of meditative walking to figure it out. When we came back together to compare definitions, the outcome surprised us…and kind of didn’t.?

Kati's Definition

Upon first considering the term “power couple” I instinctively threw it out the window, labeling it in my mind with an aggressive, action-based energy that sets out to conquer and obliterate everything in its path in order to succeed. That’s not me and Alex, so why did this term keep showing up for us??

When it comes to our partnership, each of us is deeply connected to our own personal power which allows a respect for the other’s natural abilities to come forward. It’s a continuous crusade, setting aside our egos to allow a coming together of our creative energies so we can forge a path forwards in the direction of our shared aspirations. For me, this is where the word “power” rings true and how I reconcile it as an appropriate characteristic of our relationship.?

When you connect to your own power, you are able to show up in the partnership as your most authentic self - it’s in this purity of who you are that you are able to hold space for your partner’s authentic self to join. When this happens, your natural abilities are magnified by the power of co-creation.?

Alex's Definition

Alex believes a real “power couple” will use their individual strengths to help elevate their partner in weaker areas. They step up for their partner in situations or in tasks that are better suited for the others’ strengths…I think Jerry McGuire said it best, “you complete me.”

Beyond completing each other, Alex thinks the real “power” comes from a combined focus on a shared goal which exponentially moves you faster towards your dreams.?

“We have often played in our imaginations together with our future selves. We allowed ourselves to personify limitless dreaming, holding nothing back, and then setting out to make those fantasies a reality.”

So what's the secret to being a power couple?

When we compared our definitions of a power couple, we realized that we were essentially saying the same thing and that both of us knew that we knew the secret all along!

Our definition: a power couple is two people in a partnership that have unlocked the magic of co-creation, bringing forth a life of dreams realized.?

Of course, this is very simplified out of respect for your time, but the long and the short of it is that being a power couple means connecting to your own personal power, putting your ego aside to allow your partner to support you where you need it, getting clear on your shared goals, and then combining your efforts and focusing your energy on the journey to realizing your dreams.

The journey is the joy, the love and the meaning of life, not the destination. Once you achieve your dreams, set out to pursue others. In the midst of chaos, noise and distraction, you will find true happiness and peace in the shared life experiences between you and your partner.

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