The Secret To Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin

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In this week's newsletter, I'll share with you what you need to know to feel comfortable in your own skin.

But first, check out my quote of the week below...

QUOTE OF THE WEEK:

The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are- bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling- when you don't feel the need to apologise for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.

Charles Handy

THIS WEEK'S TRAINING:

The Secret To Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin

Think back to your school days and remember the popular child the one whom others were desperate to be seen with, but who never seemed concerned if they were liked or not.?

Contrast it with the pupil who was craving to be liked, who tried too hard and tagged on to groups but was always on the outside.

The difference is a level of confidence driven by being comfortable in their own skin. Even from an early age, we recognise the attractiveness of the person who is secure in their value.

How do I become comfortable in my own skin???

The best way to do this is to make sure your emotional needs are being met.

In Maslow's hierarchy of human needs...

... Emotional needs are love and belonging and self-esteem.

When these needs are met subconsciously or consciously we feel secure and comfortable in our own skins.

However, many people aren't aware of their emotional needs and jump from safety and security to self-actualisation (doing what you love) and then don't understand why they're still not happy.

Whatever your external world is like If your emotional needs aren't being met you'll feel out of sorts, apathetic and as if something is missing from your life.

That's why you may have a great job, family, wealth and lots to be grateful for but still feel discontent.

What are my emotional needs???

What we need emotionally and how we need it to be met is individual to us and driven by our values and personality.

For example, if your need to be loved is unmet you may find yourself clinging to anyone who gives you attention or trying to meet that need through shopping or food.

The secret is to work out what makes you feel loved. Time spent with good friends or a thoughtful gift from your partner. When you know what it is you can tell your partner, family and friends because what we need is individual.

To help you work out what your needs are and if they're being met, consider each of these questions:

1. Do you feel that your home and work environments are stable and secure?
2. Do you feel part of your community
3. Do you feel accepted for who you are by at least one other person?
4. Are there other people you are emotionally connected to?
5. Do you feel you're achieving what you want to in life?
6. Are there areas of your life where you feel challenged and stretched?
7. Do you feel supported by others?
8. Are you in control of your life most of the time?
9. Do you feel you're receiving attention from those you care about?
10. Are you giving others enough attention?
11. Are your accomplishments acknowledged by anyone?
12. Do you have the time and space to reflect on your experiences?

If you answer no to any of these it might be an area where your need isn't being met.

We have a lot of emotional needs but the most common and impactful ones are:

• The need to be loved
• The need to be heard
• The need to be appreciated
• The need to achieve

Once you have identified which of your needs aren't being met you can create possible actions to help you feel fulfilled.

And that is when you start to feel comfortable in your own skin and will draw in people who want to be around you.

If you feel that your needs aren't being met in your career then you will find my webinar recording super helpful:

The 4 Step Formula To Nail Your Next Promotion And Feel Valued Not Overlooked

Or book a no-cost call with me at www.speakwithjo.com

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