A Season Of Gratitude Reflection- Choose Your Mindset

Thanksgiving is the perfect time to reflect on what we are grateful for. Over the past few months through various times, whether they be challenging or rewarding, I have been embracing a mindset that focuses on gratitude and peace. Recently, I came across an image that was shared with me, which I deeply resonated with. It highlighted a simple but profound truth: the importance of knowing what is in our control and what is not.

?Instead of dwelling on regrets or worrying about the future, the message encouraged focusing energy on what we can change. This shift in perspective can bring so much clarity and peace to our lives.

?Here is how I have been breaking it down:?

Out of Our Control

?There are many aspects of life that lie beyond anyone’s ability to control. Accepting these can reduce frustration and help cultivate peace:

?Other people’s beliefs and behaviors: Trying to change someone’s perspective or actions often leads to resistance. People have their own unique worldviews shaped by their experiences, and they act according to their values and motivations.

?What others think: Everyone has their own opinions about people and situations, shaped by their biases and experiences. These opinions are outside our control and should not dictate our self-worth or decisions.

?The past: No one can rewrite history, no matter how much they may wish to. Dwelling on past mistakes or missed opportunities can be paralyzing, while learning from them and letting go allows for growth.

?The future: The future is uncertain and worrying about what might happen will not change its course. Instead, focusing on preparation and adaptability can ease anxiety about the unknown.

?Outcomes: Even with careful planning, outcomes can be influenced by factors beyond control, such as timing, external circumstances, or others’ decisions. Letting go of expectations can help manage disappointment and foster resilience.

?Letting go of these aspects does not mean apathy means releasing the stress of trying to control the uncontrollable and focusing on what truly matters.

?Within Our Control

?While many things are out of reach, there are key areas in life that everyone has the power to influence. Prioritizing these can lead to a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment:

?Attitude: While external events are unpredictable, one’s mindset is a personal choice. Choosing to approach life with optimism, resilience, or curiosity can shape experiences in meaningful ways.

?Energy investment: Individuals can decide how and where to direct their energy—toward meaningful goals, relationships, or self-care—rather than wasting it on distractions or negativity.

?Communication: The words people choose to use, whether with others or themselves, have significant power. Speaking with kindness, clarity, and intention can foster connection and build trust.

?Self-perception: The way individuals talk to themselves—whether with criticism or compassion—can affect confidence and the ability to overcome challenges. Choosing positive and constructive self-talk can make a lasting difference.

?Emotional processing: While feelings arise spontaneously, how they are managed is a personal choice. Taking time to process emotions—through reflection, mindfulness, or healthy outlets—can prevent impulsive reactions and promote understanding.

?Boundaries: Setting clear limits is vital for protecting time, energy, and emotional health. Saying “no” when necessary, allows for greater focus on priorities and reduces burnout.

?Relationships: Individuals can choose the people they surround themselves with. Investing in uplifting, supportive relationships can enhance well-being, while minimizing time spent with negative influences helps preserve energy.

?Responses to challenges: When faced with adversity, people can control their response—whether it is choosing patience, seeking creative solutions, or adapting with flexibility. These choices shape how challenges are experienced and overcome.

?Why This Matters

?Focusing on what is within our control is empowering and clarifying. It allows individuals to channel their energy into areas where it can make a meaningful difference, rather than feeling overwhelmed by the uncontrollable.

?Letting go of what cannot be changed does not mean giving up means creating space for peace, confidence, and personal growth. It is not about perfection; it is about shifting focus to what truly matters.

?On this Thanksgiving, this reminder feels especially relevant. Life is full of difficulties, but by directing energy toward what we can influence, we create a life filled with intention and meaning.