Saying 'Yes' to Saying 'No'

Recently I’ve taken the word ‘busy' out of my lexicon. I’m yet to replace it with something, but removing the word as a descriptor and as a practice helps in reframing my holistic approach to life.

Part of this has been about balancing the ‘whelm’. This is something I’ve been playing around with to avoid being over-whelmed or under-whelmed, neither are very palatable states to be in for too long. I’ve been balancing the ‘whelm’.

This has involved saying ‘no’ to things and learning to say ‘yes’ to the right things. I understand that many of us are taught that we can’t say ‘no’, that if we do we will miss out on things, that people will pass us by, that we will be seen as rude or ungrateful.

Saying ‘no’ is an act of radicalism and when you begin to politely say ‘no’, whole new worlds opens up. It’s a slow movement, but tangible.

People begin to value your time and decisions. It’s communicating to others that you are thoughtful and considerate of energy, timing and commitment. It’s an approach of honesty and kindness, to yourself and others you work with.

Make sure you are saying ‘yes’ to the right things, that the choices you are making are aligned with who you want to be. Say ‘Yes’ to the future you.