Say what’s next best

Okay, so you can’t have what you want most in life. What’s next on your list? If you can’t have what you really want, put that aside. It’s a no. It doesn’t mean you can’t have other things. Don’t let it contaminate the rest of your life.

So you can’t have that particular relationship. What do you want, a good healthy love relationship? Put it on your want list. So you can’t live in that house. What did you like about that house? What would you like in the place you want to live? Dig deeply.

Look inside. I bet there’s all kinds of dreams buried in you. Go ahead. Take a risk. Let them come out. Look-you’re already thinking about something you denied yourself a long time ago. Most of us have things in life we wanted more than anything or anyone else. Many of us have had to learn to let these things or people go.

Put all the things you can’t have on a different list. Or maybe add it to your list of questions to God, your “why’s.” “God, why couldn’t I have that when it’s what I wanted most?” Then let it go. Now, make another list. Call it, “If I can’t have what I wanted most, what I would want next best, after that.”

New York, 10.23.2022