Say what you mean and mean what you say!

Why is it so hard for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say, sometimes?People like to talk. And when they talk, they often muddy the water about what they really mean because people tend to speak through an autobiographical lens, i.e., "this is my truth because it is from my perspective". Sometimes making ourselves understood is easier said than done. Those moments when you need to read between the lines. Subtext is what makes life interesting.

I have heard some variation of the belief that we must mean the things we say if we are saying them. It isn’t rocket science to know that your empty words have a negative effect on those whom they are dispersed to. Promises that aren’t kept; what ifs; seem to be the most common forms. Kind of like the other Golden Rule, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all,” what is the need to say things if you don’t mean them? People need to think before they speak. Especially this day and age where people read into every little text message, spoken word and vague look. 

I have come to understand that what we say and even think is not always an accurate reflection of how we really feel. It doesn’t reflect the whole picture. And only if we take into account our whole emotional experience can we ultimately be kinder and more understanding of ourselves and those who matter to us. In conclusion, it’s not always “say what you mean and mean what you say.” Rather, it’s often a question of “say what you mean so I know what you say.” And that, my friends, takes at least two.

Keep Moving & Smiling!!