The sacrifices of a working parent
Josephine Otimi
Entrepreneur, Real Estate & Business Investor, Public Speaker, Consultant, Specialist in Transformation & Performance, Holistic Wellness Enthusiast
Just before my daughter Pepper was born, I started her an email account. I use this account to share photos, stories and different milestones that she's had. The intention is to give this to her on her 18th birthday to share the memories that happened over the years.
I am raw and unapologetic in my conversations with her, hoping that she understands some of the struggles of womanhood and feels comfortable talking with me about anything when she faces some of the same emotions.
A few months ago, I wrote to her about my struggles with being a working parent. Before I share that letter, I think it's important to note that I love my job, team, and what I do; it's an integral part of who I am. I don't ever want to be anything other than me (so she sees that and knows to be the same).
All that aside - here's my letter Xx
Dear Pepper,
Being a parent. Some days are good and some days, not so much.
I'm just over 7 months into my new business, and we've won a piece of work with a company interstate. This means that I have to spend time back and forth in Sydney for the next two months.
Typically, I spend a large part of the day away from you. Building a business that supports us financially and makes sure that we can have a stable future. Your dad does an amazing job carrying the responsibilities of looking after a toddler, ensuring that the family and house still run smoothly. He even entertains my neuroses and makes you a decent meal while I'm away - even if he's only having toast. We have a fantastic partnership that most couples would envy.
These roles in our life mean that you end up loving your dad a little more than me.
That's ok, I understand, you spend more time with him. He's the one that's always there when you are hungry, sick, your nappy needs changing or when you want someone to play with. I'm so glad you love your daddy, and I hope as you grow older, it allows him to show and guide you in the importance of being treated well by any man who wants to be in your life.
What makes it hard, though, is it becomes a rough and lonely journey for
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6 年A delightful and touching letter, Josephine. Pepper is very lucky xx
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6 年Thanks for sharing Jo. This gives me an idea to open an email as well for my toddlers. :(
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6 年Jo, thank you for sharing - a beautiful letter, life is never easy, but I cannot yet comprehend what those struggles would feel like. I love the way you have opened her an email address for those letters and memories, a trick I might keep up my sleeve.
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6 年Josephine Otimi Thanks for sharing... ohhh I totally get it. I hope my kids too will understand why I work as hard as I have too later on.... wonderful idea with the email!