"Rules" of Successful Self-Development!
James Fleming M.
Advocate Women In Leadership, Unlocking Leadership Potential, Inspiring Change: Comprehensive Leadership Development to Realise Business Vision Through Our Trust and Inspire MQ-Leadership Evolution.
Self-Development, real self-development takes small steps at a time and creates a massive impact.
SMALL IS THE NEW BIG!
Rule #1 - Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself!
Self-pity is the worst kind of emotion. It turns you into a powerless victim. So make a decision to stop feeling sorry for yourself now - and take a massive leap in your self-development.
Rule #2 - Learn to Let Go
We're each clutching to our emotions, causing ourselves pain and stress. By letting go of emotions, we experience greater freedom. You are not your emotions. Just ask yourself: "Can I let this go?"
Rule #3 - Your Brain is Limiting
You The brain is simply a powerful computer. It records and plays back. It uses "labels" such as sadness and illness to replay things in your mind. Drop the labels. Ask yourself: "Is this a limiting thought?"
Rule #4 - Stop Being So Damn Sensitive
This rule is simple: Stop being so sensitive, stop wanting or waiting for approval, and stop trying to please everybody. By being your authentic self, you'll automatically become more real and likeable.
Rule #5 - Be Happy Now!
We spend most of our time either dwelling on the past or fantasizing about the future. Try to take time to actually live in the Now - and enjoy real freedom. You are only what exists in this moment.
Rule #6 - Release Your Religion!
We each have "religions or religious beliefs" holding us back in the world. From Judaism to the Law of Attraction. Every belief system simply adds a new set of rules to your life. Release your religion if it's holding you back and embrace freedom.
Rule #7 - Intention Sets Direction
We usually get the outcome we expect. So, set an intention in everything you do - from going to a party to your first day at a new job. Set a positive intention, and prepare for a positive outcome
Rule #8 - Say Yes More
We each say "No" to too many things in our lives. Try saying "Yes!" to emotions, situations, invitations, and see how your life changes. Flow with the stream of life, and it all becomes easier.
Rule #9 - Change Is the Only Constant
Everything changes: people die, kids grow up, companies shut down. Rather than fight against the cycle of life, embrace it - and realize that absolutely everything moves on. Even this shall pass.
Rule #10 - People Are Weird, Love Them For It
Some people are just plain kooky. Get used to it. Try quickly fast-forwarding through that person's life to sympathize with their motives. But realize this: you'll never truly understand anybody.
Rule #11 - You Can't Change the Past
Sounds obvious, but we all try to do it. Realize that what happened in the past is over. Stop wasting energy visiting past events in your mind. Move forward from this moment onward. Write your own Story
Rule #12 - Fill Your Life with Happiness!
Everything you do is in search of happiness. So, fill your life with happy things: surround yourself with happy music, take a dance class, be grateful, expand your social circle, enjoy more experiences.
Rule #13 - Be a Rich Monk!
Get rid of your crazy misconceptions. You don't need an epiphany to be self-developed. You're not broken, so you can't be fixed. You don't need to meditate or give up your possessions to be spiritual and start your path to self-development, you just need to make a choice: "It's Time To Change"
Rule #14 - Sadness is Okay.
It's All Good In order to experience happiness, we must experience sadness. When sadness arises, embrace it - and watch it dissolve. If you want the rainbow, you've got to put up with the rain.
Rule #15 - You Are Not Your Story
Don't get wrapped up in your story. Stories restrict and cripple us. Past results are not indicative of future performance. Let go of your story - and enjoy true freedom in the now. Don't label yourself with past emotion, feeling or circumstances, let that shit go and move on.
Rule #16 - Smile, Laugh, Love Yourself
Make a decision to be self-developed and happy. We're all a little screwed-up. Love yourself for being crazy and pedantic. Laugh more at the wonder of life. And smile, because you're free. Let's be really honest with ourselves here, it could be a lot worse, think about it, you could be sad because it's raining or happy that the grass is getting watered for free, you always have a choice, so smile, laugh and love more?
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James Fleming
Helping teams and leaders reach their full potential through : Training | Coaching | Facilitation | Learning Design
6 年Great post James. I particularly like Number 5 - 'Be happy now'. Very often I hear "I will be happy when"........ Unfortunately when it arrives people are not often 'present' enough to realise that this was their time to be happy and have moved on to the next thing. Be happy now - Love it :)
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6 年Hi James. I had to "enforce" (and follow) a LOT of rules in my time in the Police so I'm now not a huge fan of "rules" in general (although obviously we have to have them or anarchy would ensue!). However, I'm loving the "rules" in your post!