Rule 10: Seek Win/Win solutions

Rule #10 from the 16 Rules of Fair Fighting for Married Couples is to agree together to "seek win/win solutions".

As partners, work together to find solutions that resolve your issue in a way that benefits the marriage. A problem in how your team operates requires the skills and gifts of both team members for mutual benefit.

At the end of the process, both parties should ideally be able to agree that a solution will work and will be a healthy way forward.

What's more, if the husband seeks her best interest and the wife his, this skill becomes second nature when both are acting in the Spirit. Agreeing on this as a goal is the first step in intentionally practicing it and honing it as a skill. Once both partners have buy in to a solution that brings peace or a steps towards a better resolution, the buy-in is more complete and the sign off from both is authentic.

Philippians 2:1-8 "Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

Who, being in very nature a God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.

And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!"

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