Rude people show who they really are!

Imagine it is Monday morning and you are getting stuck in heavy traffic while going to office. Now, if someone cuts in your lane in front of your car even without showing any signal what do you do? Your first reaction is that you swear at the driver and you may flash your lights or honk once, but he doesn't even look at your reactions and shows you a middle finger that is when your boiling point is reached and you are about to get into a fight or try to retaliate to him strongly for his misdeed.

I know that some might say it is better to keep quiet and his 'karma' will take care of it, but if we presume that the root of rudeness is the lack of consideration for others and that the person doesn't know any thing better at all, then we could try to inspire some introspection into him saying ‘Hello, My Dear Sir, why do you imagine that your time is more precious than mine? Don't you even have a courtesy of requesting me to let you come into my lane?"

We can count on 'n' number of such reasons where people act rudely or talk rudely with us in public life. The things we typically consider rude are those behaviours from others that fail to consider or intentionally disregard our feelings and beliefs. Their behaviour essentially demonstrates that we have lesser value than we feel we deserve.

Now coming closer home, at your place of work for example your boss forces you to work late on some urgent projects but he as usual leaves office early, even if his approval is remaining unfinished. Or even at home if your spouse spends time, money and energy investing into preparing a special dinner menu for you and you come home having dinner outside and telling your partner, oh but I am not hungry! I have eaten outside! How does she feel about your rudeness? It always happens that a stranger skips the line ahead of you at the coffee shop or some other queue or someone pushes his car from your side at the toll booth.

There is no dearth of rude people around the world and I have seen that it is irrespective of nationalities or colour of skin or any other respect, it is a universal truth we find rude people at every corner of a street and it is entirely up to us how to respond to their rude behaviour without losing our cool and also showing them a lesson.

My wife had recently picked up a beer can thrown by some one from his car window while waiting at the signal and it was on her side of the car, she simply got down and knocked on his window and gave him the beer can to throw into a dustbin and can you imagine the guy simply spat his mouthful of 'Paan' at her feet. Now this kind of public behaviour is completely unacceptable to any one of us but it is being done blatantly at each and every street corner and what do you do is just to throw your hands in the air and say "this country will never improve"

I know that culturally, it is becoming increasingly acceptable to disregard the feelings and beliefs of others. It appears to me that as we become less dependent on each other for survival we give each other less value. If we don’t need each other, what value do others have? This mindset is detrimental to our evolution and survival as a species but that’s a subject for a different post. Now let us learn to forgive and forget those who are rude to you. Cheers! #kishoreshintre