Route 66 Installment #16: Dirty Minds & Dirty Words

Route 66 Installment #16: Dirty Minds & Dirty Words

We all have unhealthy thoughts at times.

And sometimes words tumble out of our mouths that we instantly regret.

(Damn that leaky brain/mouth filter!)

Last week, I shared a list of 10 ways you can spring clean your life . This week, I'm dealing with two of them that can be controlled with more focus, mindfulness, and self-reflection.

How to Think Cleaner Thoughts

The mess that's in your mind can have an impact on all other aspects of your life -- at home, at work, and in your relationships.

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Intrusive thoughts are especially heinous. As the name implies, they sneak into our heads and screw up whatever nice things were dancing around in our brains.

And sometimes we simply misread another person's words or actions and turn them into our own personal fiction about their personality or motives.

As someone with an active imagination, insecurities, and past hurts, I'm especially guilty of that one.?An executive coach once asked me when I was complaining to him about an incident at work:

"Is this real stuff or is it YOUR stuff?"

I now try to ask that question of myself whenever I'm stung by the words or actions of others.

Negative self-talk is another behavior that gets in our own way in life and work. If you're not your own fan, who else will be?

Watch Your Tongue Too!

This week, I fell prey to my own loose lips. I thought I was making a snarky joke but ended up hurting a dear friend. She was bold enough to speak up and I spent several days thinking about what I said and how it could have been painful to someone else.

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My daughters had a video when they were younger that was narrated by (believe it or not) Ringo Starr. Called "Elbert's Bad Word," it was the story of a boy who said something nasty and it flew around for a long time, despite his efforts to stuff it back into his mouth.

We all have some Elbert in us. But being aware of the power of words and taking feedback from those we hurt (without being defensive) can help us build better relationships.

We can't control everything in our lives. But we CAN strive to control our thoughts, behaviors, and language.

You're never too late to become a better person, friend, and partner.

That's one area of "cleaning" that takes way more than a broom and a dustpan. But it can be way more important than sorting out that junk drawer in your desk or scrubbing your toilet.

Ellen Williams

CEO at The Salient Strategist | Digital Transformation Specialist | Sustainability Excellence Associate | Keynote Speaker | Author | Podcast Host

2 年

Yes! Self talk can be so damaging! It takes focus and work to identify the "real stuff"!

Phil Lilienthal

President at Global Camps Africa

2 年

Especially valid these days when “harmless” sarcastic remarks said in jest are so often taken personally. I experienced pushback years ago at a Major League Baseball game when I shouted out something like, “your grandmother could have caught it,” when a visiting team left fielder missed a catch. The crowd around me looked around at me as if I has threatened to set the place on fire. So much for razzing and another lesson learned about the changing times.

Susan Strawgate Code

Real Estate Associate Broker at Houlihan Lawrence

2 年

This is so true. I have a good friend who taught me to always ask myself three things before I speak: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? And does it need to be said now? Helpful questions to share.

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