Rising Above: Embracing Resilience and Empathy to Combat Bullying in the Workplace

As we observe Anti-Bullying Week, it is crucial to remember that bullying is not limited to the playground. Adults, too, can experience the cruelty of others in their personal lives and workplaces. While our primary focus should always be on the safety and wellbeing of our children, it is essential to address the issue of bullying among grown-ups.

Let us begin to explore the power of resilience, empathy, and leading by example in overcoming workplace bullying and creating a culture of respect and support.

RECOGNISING THE REALITY

While it may be difficult to admit, many of us have encountered despicable individuals in our work and personal lives. These encounters may have tested our strength and resilience, but it is important to remember who we are and hold our heads high.

Acknowledging the existence of bullying is the first step towards addressing and combating it.

RISING ABOVE

Rather than allowing ourselves to be consumed by the negativity of others, we can choose to rise above it. Proving the haters and naysayers wrong is not about seeking revenge or stooping to their level, it is about staying in our lane, excelling at what we do, and refusing to let their actions define us.

By focusing on personal growth and success, we can demonstrate that we are not defined by the cruelty of others.

CULTIVATING RESILIENCE

Building resilience is essential in navigating the challenges of workplace bullying. It involves developing a strong sense of self, maintaining a positive mindset, and seeking support from trusted colleagues, friends, or mentors.

By embracing resilience, we can bounce back from adversity and continue to thrive in our personal and professional lives.

PRACTICING EMPATHY

While it may be tempting to harbour anger or resentment towards those who have bullied us, it is important to remember that their actions stem from their own unhappiness, lack of fulfilment, envy or often their fear of something.

When practicing empathy, we can understand that their behaviour is a reflection of their own struggles and insecurities. This understanding allows us to draw a line in the sand and prioritise our own well-being.

LEADING BY EXAMPLE

As we navigate the aftermath of harassment and bullying, it is crucial to lead by example and create a culture of respect and support in our workplaces.

By treating others with kindness, empathy, and inclusivity, we can foster an environment where bullying has no place and by being the best version of ourselves and demonstrating resilience and empathy, we inspire others to do the same.

Data Doesn’t Lie …

• According to a survey conducted by the Workplace Bullying Institute , 19% of American workers have experienced workplace bullying, while an additional 19% have witnessed it.
• In the UK, a survey by the Trades Union Congress (The TUC) found that nearly a third (29%) of workers have been bullied at work.
• The same TUC survey revealed that 46% of workers who experienced bullying did not report it to their employer.
• Research conducted by the University of Manchester M&A and Private Equity estimated that workplace bullying costs the UK economy approximately ￡14 billion ($18 billion) per year in lost productivity, absenteeism, and employee turnover.

MY FINAL THOUGHTS …

Harassment, intimidations, and bullying, whether in schools or workplaces, is a pitiful behaviour driven by unhappiness, lack of fulfilment, or simple envy. However, it is not our responsibility to carry the burden of others' actions. By embracing resilience, practicing empathy, and leading by example, we can rise above workplace bullying and create a positive and supportive environment. Let us stand tall, move forward, and make each day count as we strive to be the best versions of ourselves, calling out unfitting or harmful behaviours.

Throughout my lifetime, I have encountered numerous instances of unacceptable conduct from various sources throughout my career. However, one particular distant occurrence remains ingrained in my memory due to its systemic acceptance and endorsement. This specific behaviour has far-reaching and recurring consequences, greatly impacting the overall prosperity and reputation of that organisation:

A senior executive insisted that Diversity & Inclusion is not related to Workplace Culture, and asserted their unwavering ‘opinion’ as an ultimate authority by closing their email with …

‘THE END’!

I informed the HR Director, at the time, who nonchalantly stated that this leader has history of misogynistic behaviour and astonishingly stated “its just the way they are”.

Tell me … … Are we fighting loosing battles? How do we educate leaders and bring psychological safety to workplaces to enable all cultures where all employees are given the opportunity for inclusion to thrive and flourish.

Together, let’s rase awareness of all types of unacceptable behaviours and commit to calling out bad behaviours we experience or witness, and make a difference for eradicating bullying, one head and one heart at a time.

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