Is this the right time to build new habits?

Is this the right time to build new habits?

During the past few weeks, I have noticed some common feelings of my clients during the coaching sessions.

They are overwhelmed.??

They are motivated to quit bad habits, they are willing to build new habits that are good for them.

But they struggle.

When they can`t keep up with their targets, they judge themselves for having too little motivation or too little self-discipline.

For being too lazy or too busy. And that makes them feel even more overwhelmed.

I hear you. I feel you.??

One thing I am advising then is that building a new habit has very little to do with motivation or self-discipline. You need them just enough to start. The rest is about setting up the right environment and system.

They understand it. Intellectually. But I notice that it doesn`t help them enough.

Because they are tired. For a long time have been so.

And the same time, they want to improve, to be better versions of themselves, to be better versions for their partners, children, bosses, employees.

??Here is my message to you, if you feel the same way.

Stopping a bad habit and building a new habit isn`t something that is separate from your life. It is a part of your life.

When you are exhausted by the end of the year goals, family issues, team challenges, pandemic restrictions, health problems, or whatever else it might be.. you have very little energy left for the topics that are not burning.

Same time, you need to find a way out of that vicious cycle of stress.

??Ask yourself, WHICH of the new habits would support your well-being, RIGHT NOW? Which would support you feeling better in general? More relaxed, more healthy?

And then go for that. Forget about the rest. There`s no competition of who makes more new habits in a month. Well, not as I know at least.

Start with ONE habit. Start with tiny steps. Don`t take your habit-building too seriously. Create the necessary environment and system to make it work, and look at it lighter, look at it as a game.

Couldn`t keep up today with the habit, because you were too swamped in your job? Make the mental note, learn from it, move on, do better tomorrow.

Succeeded to stick with the plan despite everything and now feeling great? Celebrate it!??

Most of the habits are not life-death question.

They are meant to improve your life. If leaving a bad habit or creating a new one makes your life more miserable, stop it. ?

And keep in mind that it`s not your fault, it`s the fault of the system that is necessary to build a habit. Or the habit is not the right one for this particular moment.

We are living in a stressful enough time. Creating new habits definitely can support you to increase your resilience and well-being. ?? Make sure, you feel that way when working on them.

Sabine CALISKAN

??Change & Behavioral Design Architect | Leadership Transformation & Inclusive Culture Expert | Executive Coach

2 年

Thank you, Inuta for your loving sensitivity.?? Higher, faster, further was yesterday, but most of the time it's the small changes that make a big difference!

During the pandemic period, we started to live a more inward life. we discovered our bad habits more. There are many things that I have changed and will change for about 9 months. Thanks for the New and wide perspective. Inuta Sert

Gizem Kaya

Talent Acquisition Specialist at IO Interactive

2 年

A very supportive piece of article. Thank you Inuta!

Syed Mohammad Emad Bokhari

HR Professional | HR Strategist | HR Business Partner | Organizational Effectiveness | Learning & People Development | Talent Intelligence | Cultural Transformation | HR Digitalization

2 年

It is a great article. Good to see you after a long time. Keep it up Inuta Sert

Inuta Sert

Career Coach │ Former Executive Recruiter │ Interview Preparation │ Job Search Strategy │ Empowering mid-senior-level managers to get the right job!

2 年

?? Let`s talk about your goals & habits, here is the link to book a session with me:?https://lnkd.in/eKh9tqGA

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