Respecting the Trauma

Let’s face it; many people don’t know what to say when encountering someone struggling with divorce, broken relationships, a tragedy, or other painful realities.?In sincerity, some offer suggestions like:

That’s in the past. Just put it behind you. Don’t look in the rearview mirror.?

While sounding like good advice to keep moving forward, there are times when acknowledging the magnitude of someone’s heartache is appropriate—and “sifting through the mess” and assessing the destruction is required. Recovery takes time, and part of the process involves meticulously inspecting the damage. Any insurance adjuster who’s visited a client following a devastating flood, fire, or tornado will affirm the importance of an exhaustive appraisal of the damage before rebuilding.?

Many caregivers painfully discover the journey doesn’t end at the cemetery. In some instances, the aftereffects of caregiving can last a lifetime. All too many caregivers can attest to the lasting impact of caring for an impaired loved one, and more studies are needed to show the PTSD statistics of family caregivers.?

Trained professionals and loving family and friends can help caregivers navigate a path to healing. However, the first step always involves thoroughly inspecting—and respecting—the trauma.

We’ve got to rebuild human hearts—and persuade people that hope isn’t just possible, but essential.?—Tony Snow

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