Respect & Disrespect in Relationship

Real love is not based on romance, candle light dinner. It is based on respect, compromise, care and trust!!

Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you. Is the way to build relationship!

Never waste your feelings on people who don’t value them…

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you, not because they are nice, because you are!!

A great relationship is about two things first, find out the similarities, second respect the differences.

Respect those who talk to you in their free time, But love those who free their time to talk to you..

Respect people’s feelings even if it doesn’t mean anything to you,    it could mean everything to them.

Respect is as important as love in relationship!!

Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule.But love people who never look at their schedule when you need them..

Love and respects are the most important aspects of parenting and of all relationships.

Long distance relationship will work if two people involve are strong in faith, love and respect for each other.

Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they’re different from you or you don’t agree with them.

Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing.

Respect doesn’t have to come naturally – it is something you learn.

Think about all the different situations in life where you have to get along with others – how do you know if there’s respect in your relationship? 

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Thank you … What Is Disrespect?

The definition of disrespect is, often, a lack of respect. So what is respect?

Respect is defined by most dictionaries as a deep admiration for someone, but the concept of respect encompasses so much more that admiration.

The essence of respect entails honoring a person's feelings and needs; it also involves taking into consideration and assigning importance to a person's desires, goals, thoughts, and behaviors. So disrespect would be the exact opposite of this.

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Signs of Disrespect in Relationships

Signs of disrespect can sometimes be evident on the first date but many times don't occur until later on in the relationship.

The first sign is often a lack of regard for the other's freedom and space. After a year of dating in college, Emmy would get angry with Tom when he would spend time with his guy friends or if he was too busy to spend time with her because of school work.

Another sign is a lack of respect for the other's time. Antonio consistently made his wife, Maya, late for important events, like weddings or graduation ceremonies, where it was very important to be on time. Even though Maya discussed with Antonio her desire and need to be on time, he continuously displayed a lack of regard for his wife's need.

A third sign is a lack of attentiveness to the other's need for safety. Mike took Victoria for a ride on his new motorcycle on their second date. He started popping wheelies while driving at a dangerously fast speed around corners which made Victoria very uncomfortable. She continuously pleaded for Bill to stop and slow down, but he kept on.

Fourth is a lack of consideration of boundaries. After three years into the relationship with Dustin, Beth looked through his phone and bedside table drawer almost on a daily basis. When Dustin looked like he was in deep thought, Beth insisted he tell her what he was thinking. Beth did not respect Dustin's right to privacy, to have his own things, even the right to not always have to share his thoughts.

Lastly is disrespecting need for financial security. Alpesh and Manju worked paycheck to paycheck and had established a strict budget to make sure that they were financially secure. Alpesh had a shopping problem and would always buy superfluous items at the wholesale grocery. He also gambled their money playing cards with his friends, and this made Manju very nervous.

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Behaviors of Disrespect in Relationships

Let's look at behaviors that can be considered disrespectful in relationships and marriage:

 First is manipulation. Susie would often fake cry to get her way with her boyfriend, Jim. Her crying was a tactic of manipulation and was a deceitful tactic that constantly made Jim feel terrible because he felt like he had upset her.

Another disrespectful behavior involves minimizing feelings. Emily would tell her boyfriend Gunther about struggles with her mother, but he would say that she was overreacting and would minimize her feelings.

A third behavior involves nagging and criticism. Usha liked her home a certain way and had a stay-at-home mom routine that she swore by, so when her husband Jay diverted from her standards, she was constantly nagging him. Usha  was not respecting Jays way of doing things. When nagging turns into criticism of the other's character and personality (instead of just focusing on the behavior), this is considered disrespectful behavior as well.

Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. But what exactly is respect?

Respect means that you recognize that your partner is a whole person, and not just a way to get something that you want. It means that you know your partner has different experiences and opinions from you, and that's ok.