Resolving Trauma- Final step

You know that the experience changed who you used to be. You stopped trusting anybody. Your hopes are not as high as they used to be. Deep down you question whether you're good enough. You're putting more effort and hard-work every day to show the world that you're useful for something. You want to stop those things, these thoughts.

Somewhere in your soul you wish those things never had to happen to you. You long for peace. You want to gain back those years you lost. Those bad habits you developed and those unconscious effects, you sometimes wonder how they all even started. These series have been focusing on how to resolve trauma and its effects, that is, if you have taken the big step of deciding to do everything to come out of it.

Consistency.

The human mind is wired to relapse those bad habits because they are associated to a negative emotional memory. This tells you that no matter how far you go, it takes one memory to travel you back to where you started from. This is the point where most people tend to give up and consciously or not, decide to live with it because "what's the point?"

I'll tell you dear, the long run does not benefit you in any way. You slowly become a shadow of your former self. You'll find yourself putting more vain efforts and hard work to live up to expectations because you don't want to be seen by others as 'not good enough', as you may have seen yourself. You'll find out you begin to live through everyday like a routine without actually living the life you dreamt of when you were young and innocent.

These things we talked about earlier in this series; acknowledging it, talking about it, sharing it, taking time out for yourself needs consistency. Be open to talking about it from time to time, taking time out to think through the past and continuously make positive corrections at every point.

Next week, I'll be giving a practical example on consistency but before then, I want you to know that you can do it. You can be the best version of yourself, that total adult you dreamed yourself to be, if you really want to. Know that you're deeply loved.

Have a nice week!