Resilience at Work: Navigating and Overcoming Bullying

Are you aware that a staggering 30% of adults have faced bullying at work? With tactics ranging from verbal abuse and spreading rumors to isolating and excluding people. For the victims, it's a high-risk, stressful, and demotivating experience. Bullies can torpedo your self-esteem and even push you to quit your job.

I know this all too well from personal experience.

My Story: Battling Bullying in the Workplace

A few years ago, I found myself in a toxic work environment. Every day, I faced verbal abuse and was constantly undermined by a colleague who excluded me from employee events. They spread rumors about me, isolated me from important projects, and made me feel like an outsider in my workplace. It became incredibly difficult for me to go to work every day, knowing the hostility I would face. This went on for over three years.

However, as a single parent, I didn't have the luxury of quitting. My job was crucial for supporting my family. This responsibility was the only thing that kept me going back, despite the immense stress and anxiety I felt.

If you’re experiencing something similar, know that you’re not alone. Here are three tips to help overcome or alleviate the impacts of workplace bullying: Let's talk

Directly Address the Bully

Confronting a bully can be intimidating, but it can sometimes be the most effective first step. Calmly and assertively address their behavior. Here’s how you can do it:

1. Choose a Private Setting: Talk to the bully in a private setting where you can have an open and honest conversation without interruptions.
2. Use "I" Statements: Frame your concerns using "I" statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, "I feel disrespected when you interrupt me during meetings."
3. Be Specific: Point out specific behaviors that are problematic and explain how they affect you and your work.

The most important part is to set clear boundaries: Clearly state what behavior you will not tolerate and outline the consequences if the bullying continues. Remember, bullies often act out of their own insecurities or past experiences. By standing firm and asserting your rights, you can reclaim your power and create a more respectful workplace for yourself and others.

Do you need someone to speak with, please do not hesitate to contact me or a therapist to help you through this difficult time.

Alina J. Ugas

Certified Hypnotherapist and Wellness Coach