Resilience – What is This About?
Gill Mathias
Midlife Strategist I Resilience Coach I Facilitator I Mentor Unlock your potential to thrive in midlife with clarity and confidence to navigate the challenges of midlife. Award winner.
I have spent many years training employees in companies on “The Power of Resilience.” I am now helping clients in later life to enjoy their lives by planning their Retirement which often involves a desire to set up a business later in life. RESILIENCE IS A VITAL QUALITY!
Resilience is a quality that you never know that you have until you have gone through trials in your life. Everyone eventually goes through these hard times. When you do experience these struggles, the most important thing to know is that there is life after the challenges. You may feel like there is no future beyond the dark days that you are incapable of rising above whatever situation you are in. But there is hope. Whether you are going through a job loss, the death of a loved one, or the end of a relationship, you do have the ability to find fulfilment again.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back, but actually bounce forward with your experiences of life after you have been faced with a setback. Most people don't realise how much strength they have until it is tested. Tough situations are put into our lives in order to help us find that strength. Every day that you overcome and get out of bed is a day that you are that much stronger, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time. You can never find your ability to be resilient unless you are put into the circumstances to begin with.
The most successful, happiest people are not those who have gone through life without suffering. The people who thrive are the ones who are resilient, who don't let failure and disappointment stop them as they pursue their goals. If you are struggling, it might help you to find people you admire and ask them about a time they overcame something difficult in their own lives. You will probably be surprised at what other people have gone through, and how much it mirrors your own circumstances.
Sometimes the hardest thing can be to take the first step towards rebuilding your life. It helps to have a community that can help support you, whether that's within your faith, family, or friendships. It's much easier to find your footing when you have people who can listen and give you genuine advice from a place of love. However, as helpful as encouragement can be, resilience can only come from within yourself. You are the only one who can decide you have the strength to rebound.
When you're at your lowest, it helps to remember that one day you will find yourself in a place of happiness again. You will find joy that you might not have ever found unless your life took that exact path. Allow yourself to be tempered by the experience, to be hardened but not brittle. Learn to bend without being broken.
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